Has anyone gotten back together after divorce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"mistakes were made" = I left my spouse and found out my AP wouldn't leave his/her spouse... or I lived with my AP and found out it's totally different living with them than just having sex with them... and now I want a do-over and to return to my original branch

this is what I experienced. sounds like it is common enough to be predictable. grass was not greener, it was weird and fake.

[Anonymous]

We did after three years. I was in an accident and I really needed help for myself and my children. Without my asking my ex really took over even though he was dating someone. It didn't take long for me to realize that I had made a mistake getting a divorce and while it took him longer he realized it too. That was 11 years ago and we've been very happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine is dating her ex-husband (who she has two kids with), and says it is going well. She says mistakes were made by both sides and it was the typical "We were both exhausted and miserable with small kids" situation.

I think they've been dating for about 9 months.

My XW and I were married 18 years with three kids and both were professionals. There was fault on both sides and the inability to communicate with life got strenuous. She wanted the divorce because there was no time for us and she felt she was not "in love" with me. Fast forward 3 years later, we both had time to reflect and understand that our marriage should of been the priority, not the kids. We both have dated but realizing other individuals do not like having 3 kids in the picture and the is unacceptable. I am at a happy place in my life but unsure what the future holds between my XW and I. We do not have the pain and angry of the kids that brought real stress to our lives. I guess at the time divorce is happening you do not get clarity until it is to late.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"mistakes were made" = I left my spouse and found out my AP wouldn't leave his/her spouse... or I lived with my AP and found out it's totally different living with them than just having sex with them... and now I want a do-over and to return to my original branch

My XW left our me and our kids for her AP. AP realized that helping raise kids and his own XW, did not suit him well. Thus, my XW has tried to approach me and I do not want any part of that. There is a big difference when you are over 40 and trying to be a teenager with all the drama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hard to imagine going through all that expense, aggravation, and pain just to say "ooops never mind, let's take it all back".

Yeah, that ain't happening. Once you're out the door, there is a strict "no returns" policy!

[Anonymous]

"mistakes were made" is the worst possible way to explain the past. Let's just assume responsibility is irrelevant!

[Anonymous]

I really wanted to but he got engaged two weeks after divorce was done. I was so humiliated and sad. Worst day, ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine is dating her ex-husband (who she has two kids with), and says it is going well. She says mistakes were made by both sides and it was the typical "We were both exhausted and miserable with small kids" situation.

I think they've been dating for about 9 months.

My XW and I were married 18 years with three kids and both were professionals. There was fault on both sides and the inability to communicate with life got strenuous. She wanted the divorce because there was no time for us and she felt she was not "in love" with me. Fast forward 3 years later, we both had time to reflect and understand that our marriage should of been the priority, not the kids. We both have dated but realizing other individuals do not like having 3 kids in the picture and the is unacceptable. I am at a happy place in my life but unsure what the future holds between my XW and I. We do not have the pain and angry of the kids that brought real stress to our lives. I guess at the time divorce is happening you do not get clarity until it is to late.

Well said. Best wishes to you.