DH throws away my stuff

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It pisses me off so much. Think it’s totally disrespectful. He loves throwing things away. Everything from brand new, still in the box gifts from his family, furniture that’s in good condition, to any toy that is in storage, and pretty much anything that’s been left out. He doesn’t know where to put it, so in the trash it goes, and he won’t even remember tossing it. I’ve fished out so many things out of the trash. Wish he’d spend that time organizing his own stuff instead of getting into my things. Just a rant.

I'd toss his closet, dresser drawers, books.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like hoarding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry folks, it is not always about the other person being a slob. I live with a compulsive chucker. I am not a slob, I don't do clutter,, I'm not a pack rat or a hoarder.

Nonetheless, occasionally my husband feels the need to throw s*** away that doesn't need to be thrown away or shouldn't be thrown away. I've learned to live with it, and I realize it's nothing personal or disrespectful for my husband. He's just compulsive

This.

My DH once found an antique map I picked up at an estate sale as a present for my brother. Under the carpet. Where I was flattening it out. He threw it out without a word to me.

I have gone through my paperwork and put it into several piles for separate disposition. He reshuffles it all into one big pile. So I have to sort out again. I have to put "Don't touch" signs on more important things he's liable to throw out or re-arrange.

He has gone through the children's bookcases and randomly taken and thrown away books. I have to re-buy them when the children are upset their favorite books have gone missing.

He also denies doing these things.

[Anonymous]

You already made a post about this.

[Anonymous]

Hoarder Alert!!

[Anonymous]

He sounds crazy. You don’t sound like a hoarde to me.

[Anonymous]

I throw my stuff away to make room for my DH’s ever growing “collection” of stuff.

I wish i could bring myself to throw some of his shit away, even just a small thing

[Anonymous]

Can you get a basket or box where he can dump your stuff for you to sort out later? In your shoes I'd try and stay on top of not leaving stuff around, but he should at least toss everything into a basket or box rather than unilaterally deciding to throw it away w/o asking you. Unless you're actually a hoarder, in which case I'm on his side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry folks, it is not always about the other person being a slob. I live with a compulsive chucker. I am not a slob, I don't do clutter,, I'm not a pack rat or a hoarder.

Nonetheless, occasionally my husband feels the need to throw s*** away that doesn't need to be thrown away or shouldn't be thrown away. I've learned to live with it, and I realize it's nothing personal or disrespectful for my husband. He's just compulsive

This.

My DH once found an antique map I picked up at an estate sale as a present for my brother. Under the carpet. Where I was flattening it out. He threw it out without a word to me.

I have gone through my paperwork and put it into several piles for separate disposition. He reshuffles it all into one big pile. So I have to sort out again. I have to put "Don't touch" signs on more important things he's liable to throw out or re-arrange.

He has gone through the children's bookcases and randomly taken and thrown away books. I have to re-buy them when the children are upset their favorite books have gone missing.

He also denies doing these things.

My DH makes piles of papers that mean something to him. The he leaves them on the kitchen counter or on the family computer desk. I’ll ask him nicely a few times to put them away. When he inevitably doesn’t, I’ll say “if these are still here tomorrow I’m recycling them.” He usually does it then because he knows I mean it.

I have a hard time believing spouses are chucking stuff that is properly put away.