Getting DD her first bra. When? Did you bring it up or did she?

[Anonymous]

My DD came to me in the beginning of 3rd grade. Her friend was wearing one and she asked if she could get one. She got a couple of sports bras from Target. She wears them randomly as I think she realizes it’s not always super comfortable. She has breast buds now so the “bra” will help her. You can just ask if she needs a bra for the school year. It will open up the dialogue.

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Anonymous wrote:I bought a bunch and put them in her drawer and then she started wearing them. We have the same book plus all the It’s Not The series, I let her initiate conversations.

I like this idea. I remember as a girl being SO mortified about bringing up buying a bra with my mom. My parents were wonderful, loving, and approachable about body/puberty issues, but I was still just embarrassed to the core. I would have really appreciated if my mom did this.

[Anonymous]

Daughter is entering into 7th grade and we just went back to school shopping. Most tops she has been fine so far without a bra. She came out of the dressing room and the words "Well, guess we need bra shop next." She smiled and "ok."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I wonder, does the development of breasts buds = time for a bra? Or do people wait until they develop more? I will open the lines of communication but wondered when, at what point in development, girls generally started wearing them.

There comes a point where the breasts are noticeable through tee-shirts. That's when it's time for a bra.

I don't think she would take the initiative and ask for one, so I just picked up some at Old Navy for her.

[Anonymous]

I also bought Target and Kohls for DD in fifth, and she hated them (said it was too hot to wear). We switched from those to sports bras by the middle of sixth and in seventh I took her to Nordstroms to get fitted and buy real bras.

[Anonymous]

At ten when the breast buds started popping. We were at a dept. store and she tried on a dress and said I don’t like how this looks on me. I said hold on, and ran and grabbed a little bra with the pads in it, and said try this on underneath. She liked the coverage and wore one ever since.

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Anonymous wrote:At ten when the breast buds started popping. We were at a dept. store and she tried on a dress and said I don’t like how this looks on me. I said hold on, and ran and grabbed a little bra with the pads in it, and said try this on underneath. She liked the coverage and wore one ever since.

Why in earth did you get a padded bra for a 10 year old?

[Anonymous]

My DD started wearing a bralette in 4th grade. She comes from a long line of early developers. I never really had a problem with her wearing one or not. She’s self-conscious about it and wanted to wear it. She starts 6th grade this week and has been wearing a “real” bra (As in not a training bra, or bralette, or something from the kids section of Macy’s, target or Justice— believe me she needs it). Honestly, First she was a little hesitant. But, when she saw how the bra fit and how comfortable it was she quickly changed her mind. Also, I think slight padding is a good idea, especially when you start to see nipples poke out. Otherwise you see nipple through all the shirts even with a bra on.

[Anonymous]

At 10.5 my dd got breast buds and some of her thinner shirts it was obvious. I ordered some braletts of different colors and gave them to her and said if she wants them she can use them but it’s up to her. She liked them and started wearing them almost daily.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At ten when the breast buds started popping. We were at a dept. store and she tried on a dress and said I don’t like how this looks on me. I said hold on, and ran and grabbed a little bra with the pads in it, and said try this on underneath. She liked the coverage and wore one ever since.

Why in earth did you get a padded bra for a 10 year old?

Not the PP, but if the point of bras on 10yos is to avoid having their breast buds show through their clothes, then of course their bra would need slight padding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At ten when the breast buds started popping. We were at a dept. store and she tried on a dress and said I don’t like how this looks on me. I said hold on, and ran and grabbed a little bra with the pads in it, and said try this on underneath. She liked the coverage and wore one ever since.

Why in earth did you get a padded bra for a 10 year old?

Not the PP, but if the point of bras on 10yos is to avoid having their breast buds show through their clothes, then of course their bra would need slight padding.

Why don’t you just tape them down?

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[Anonymous]

I just bought bralettes/crop bras and told my DDs to wear them. It wasn't a big deal or an "event." Some shirts are thinner than others. My younger DD actually started wearing bralettes at 8. I think sports bras are so common that they didn't even bat an eye about wearing the bralettes. I removed the padding from any with inserts in the beginning, but my older DD, now 12, needs a little padding. I only get the ones with the thin removable inserts. Thick padding looks too mature. Just don't make a big deal about it because it really isn't a big deal. Maybe I've robbing my DDs of a memorable first bra moment, but it never dawned on me that this was even something to ask when is the right time about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At ten when the breast buds started popping. We were at a dept. store and she tried on a dress and said I don’t like how this looks on me. I said hold on, and ran and grabbed a little bra with the pads in it, and said try this on underneath. She liked the coverage and wore one ever since.

Why in earth did you get a padded bra for a 10 year old?

Not the PP, but if the point of bras on 10yos is to avoid having their breast buds show through their clothes, then of course their bra would need slight padding.

When did this get to be a thing? (And why?!) It wasn't a thing in the 1970s, but that was a long time ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been working on getting my DD to wear a bra for FOUR years! Literally. Now that she's going into HS, I'm back to pushing the issue again.

Not saying you should push it in 5th grade, OP. Just pointing out that some girls need a push. I remember seeing a certain clique of girls get bras in 5th. I asked for it in 6th grade to fit in. If your DD is socially conscious (which can be a good thing!), she will probably want to do it when she sees others. If she's like my DD and couldn't give a hoot about socially fitting in (and has always had sensory issues with tight fit clothing -- i.e. never wears leggins), then you might need to push.

I'm HOPING she will wear a bra in HS ... but her MO is to just wear a zippered hoodie ALL THE TIME over her tshirt so she has coverage even when it is 100 degrees. And then that creates another problem! Who knew that socializing our children would be so hard?

Just let it go. My 54 year sister and 20 year old dd do not wear bras and nobody can tell. Who cares?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just bought bralettes/crop bras and told my DDs to wear them. It wasn't a big deal or an "event." Some shirts are thinner than others. My younger DD actually started wearing bralettes at 8. I think sports bras are so common that they didn't even bat an eye about wearing the bralettes. I removed the padding from any with inserts in the beginning, but my older DD, now 12, needs a little padding. I only get the ones with the thin removable inserts. Thick padding looks too mature. Just don't make a big deal about it because it really isn't a big deal. Maybe I've robbing my DDs of a memorable first bra moment, but it never dawned on me that this was even something to ask when is the right time about.

Good grief. Buying underware and bras isn't a "memorable" moment. So in my mind you are good to go. It is something people choose to do but, it isn't something worth remembering. Same with getting period. No celebration please!