School for *BOYS*?

[Anonymous]

Please, will the mom of girls and effeminate sons please stop giving OP grief for having a boy-boy? The term has meaning and resonance for some of us. If not for you, then you probably have nothing to contribute to this discussion.

[Anonymous]

20:45, I actually happen to be a dad with sons who are plenty athletic and into trucks and cars, mud, etc, and my first post in this thread was at 20:41. (My wife pointed out this thread to me because she couldn't stop laughing about the too-precious moms who couldn't stop fawning over their ALL BOY sons.) So obviously there are quite a few people who think this whole thing is absurd.

Believe me, fathers do not think about, or talk about, their sons in this way. You ladies are pathetic. It is sad how you are thinking about and pigeon-holing your sons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:20:45, I actually happen to be a dad with sons who are plenty athletic and into trucks and cars, mud, etc, and my first post in this thread was at 20:41. (My wife pointed out this thread to me because she couldn't stop laughing about the too-precious moms who couldn't stop fawning over their ALL BOY sons.) So obviously there are quite a few people who think this whole thing is absurd.

Believe me, fathers do not think about, or talk about, their sons in this way. You ladies are pathetic. It is sad how you are thinking about and pigeon-holing your sons.

So where do your sons go to school and how do you like it?

[Anonymous]

20:57 No one's fawning. A mom just asked what might be a good school for a boy like hers. FYI: I cannot tell you how many men made a fuss over my boy when he was little. He's going to be a linebacker! He's so strong! Etc. Women make similar remarks. So please lay off the gender bashing on this one. And please don't accuse a mom of pigeonholing her son because she wants to find a good school for him!

[Anonymous]

My son is about 80% BOY, and 20% feminine. He loves to decorate.

[Anonymous]

I don't see what the big deal is with the OP's description. My son's like this too, and I do worry about how he'll do in school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:20:45, I actually happen to be a dad with sons who are plenty athletic and into trucks and cars, mud, etc, and my first post in this thread was at 20:41. (My wife pointed out this thread to me because she couldn't stop laughing about the too-precious moms who couldn't stop fawning over their ALL BOY sons.) So obviously there are quite a few people who think this whole thing is absurd.

Believe me, fathers do not think about, or talk about, their sons in this way. You ladies are pathetic. It is sad how you are thinking about and pigeon-holing your sons.

Are you kidding? What dads are you hanging out with? Most dads I know (and I am one) absolutely think about their sons in the context of how much or little they are predisposed to traditional "boy" activities like playing baseball, enjoying fishing/outdoors, etc. Most dads want to have these traditional experiences with their sons. That's not to say that if their sons are more effeminate that they love them any less, just that most like the idea of the traditional experiences... hence all the dads who buy their kid a football or baseball glove when they are 2 years old (I did).

[Anonymous]

You might want to find a school that would provide lots of outdoor play and physical activity but perhaps also encourage your 100% boy to explore activities that are not so stereotypically associated with being male. For example, if he is already extremely competitive, how about looking at schools that encourage cooperation, etc.?

[Anonymous]

All of a sudden, we've now got "fathers" posting - with writing styles that resemble those of women. I think this is another case of sock puppeting. Jeff, could you check this one please?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:20:45, I actually happen to be a dad with sons who are plenty athletic and into trucks and cars, mud, etc, and my first post in this thread was at 20:41. (My wife pointed out this thread to me because she couldn't stop laughing about the too-precious moms who couldn't stop fawning over their ALL BOY sons.) So obviously there are quite a few people who think this whole thing is absurd.

Believe me, fathers do not think about, or talk about, their sons in this way. You ladies are pathetic. It is sad how you are thinking about and pigeon-holing your sons.

Are you kidding? What dads are you hanging out with? Most dads I know (and I am one) absolutely think about their sons in the context of how much or little they are predisposed to traditional "boy" activities like playing baseball, enjoying fishing/outdoors, etc. Most dads want to have these traditional experiences with their sons. That's not to say that if their sons are more effeminate that they love them any less, just that most like the idea of the traditional experiences... hence all the dads who buy their kid a football or baseball glove when they are 2 years old (I did).

This is 20:41/20:57 responding. (And yes, those are the only 2 posts I have made to this thread to date, to respond to the "sock puppet" accusations. The moderator could confirm that if he wanted to look at IP addresses, though quite frankly I don't see any need for him to do that in connection with this nonsense.)

To respond to this post, dude, you are making completely different points than what the original poster and others have been talking about in describing their "ALL BOY" sons. I agree with you on the points that you are making--those things are important to me also, and to most dads. But dads in my experience don't talk about or think about their sons in the way that these moms are talking about their sons, as if a "100% BOY" is something different or special from some other type of boy, needing special care and attention, fawning over that "special twinkle" their "BOY boy" gets in his eye, as if he is somehow different from other types of boys and should be pigeonholed into some different type of educational environment and have different expectations as a result. Boys are different from girls. But this BOY vs boy concept is, again, ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

I too find it offensive that here we are in the 21st century and moms are describing their sons as 100% ALL BOY. How about you just let them develop as they will and stop stereotyping them. We get the idea -- they like to run, hit balls, hit people, etc. and may not like to sit still in class. Too many teachers cut them slack and make girls with those testerone type traits sit in the corner when they want to show some of their "boy" tendencies.

[Anonymous]

9:47 Where is the fawning you keep referencing? I don't see it in OP's post. This isn't a boy v. boy characterization other. There are different personality types, a spectrum if you will, for boy and for girls, and this boy boy is one of them. What is all the fuss? Silly. (Plus, 100% boy-boys are man enough not to need fawning. KIDDING!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I too find it offensive that here we are in the 21st century and moms are describing their sons as 100% ALL BOY. How about you just let them develop as they will and stop stereotyping them. We get the idea -- they like to run, hit balls, hit people, etc. and may not like to sit still in class. Too many teachers cut them slack and make girls with those testerone type traits sit in the corner when they want to show some of their "boy" tendencies.

I never saw teachers discriminate against girls who like to play sports. I have seen dads of girls and boys [who do not participate in or do well in some sports] watch other peoples boys play sports. They even ask about the kids, team, games. So the reality is some dads wish they had a football type son. The fallacy here is those sporty boys CAN sit still in class even at a young age.

[Anonymous]

I have never seen a teacher cut an active boy any "slack" because they couldn't sit still. But I've seen quite a few teachers give active boys a hard time because they needed more activity than most of the girls. Which is why for MY son, a single sex education at a school where he gets a lot of running around and where they understand active learners was the right choice for him. And yes, he loves sports and building etc., but he's also shy and very gentle. To you dads who are fuming at the way the OP described her son: get a freaking life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I too find it offensive that here we are in the 21st century and moms are describing their sons as 100% ALL BOY. How about you just let them develop as they will and stop stereotyping them. We get the idea -- they like to run, hit balls, hit people, etc. and may not like to sit still in class. Too many teachers cut them slack and make girls with those testerone type traits sit in the corner when they want to show some of their "boy" tendencies.

I don't get where this thread is going. I thought OP's question was a harmless one... what schools are best for boys who seem to display the stereotypical "boy" characteristic. (when they grow older, you'd call them a "man's man").

What's the big deal with this? Or, are we having a shadow conversation here about gay rights or something that I'm just missing???