How often do you see friends who live an hour away?
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Anonymous
This is such a small town attitude |
Anonymous
And we are thankful for that which is one of the benefits of moving. |
Anonymous
| I’m in the super close suburbs and a bunch of friends moved further out. We do girls night once a month and at least 6 of us make it. There is usually a party every 2 months for an event or a birthday. Everyone has toddlers and preschoolers for the most part. We do individual dinner/play dates with the families that we are closer every couple months. I’m willing to drive to see certain friends as I think in person contact is important. I’ll drive 30-40 min to hang out for an hour and a half and back home if it’s after our family dinner time. This little kid phase won’t last forever and we are all just reading and trying to maintain the friendships we built until we have bigger kids. |
Anonymous
| If you both work in DC, try meeting for coffee or lunch mid-week. I agree seeing people who live an hour away is tough - exp once everyone’s kids are in a million activities |
Anonymous
| 3-4 times a year with kids, another 3-4 times without. Part of it is the distance and the other part is the fact that we all work demanding jobs and have very young kids (toddlers and babies). We text a lot and have group chats on WhatsApp too. |
Anonymous
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I moved an hour out of DC two years ago. At the time, I used to see my friends once or twice a month. I've only seen them three times since I moved. It's just too far.
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Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| Twice a year. |
Anonymous
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It’s fallen off now but I had a group a friends that I would see about 3 times a year without our kids. We picked a meetup spot in downtown Bethesda on a Sunday so the DC friend could Metro in, VA suburbs friend would drive in and further out suburbs friend could drive in and parking was easier.
The driving an hour for a bbq wasn’t something we do very often. Tough to fit in the schedule logistically and when I did I didn’t actually spend much time with my friend between keeping an eye on my kids at the event and socializing with people I didn’t really know while the host was busy pulling everything off. |
Anonymous
| We moved to the "close in" suburbs, so even my rush hour commute is only 30 minutes (which means a weekend drive is 15-20 mins), but our closest DC friends still insist on hosting and refuse to drive out to us. They live in a really high density area which means we generally have to park 3-4 blocks away, which is a pain in the ass with 2 little kids. |
Anonymous
| This whole thread makes me laugh bc DCers are so entrenched in being "in the city". When I lived in LA it sometimes took me an hour to go 4 exits down the 405. If I had the same mentality about traveling and hour to see a friend, I would never have had friends outside of a 2 mile radius, let alone ever seen a friend who dared to move from the Westside! |
Anonymous
I love your blunt honesty. |
Anonymous
| hell my own sister lives an hour away and we only see each other 3-4X a year |
Anonymous
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The problem is that the people in the suburbs have the outside space to have a cookout on their deck surrounded by trees and pretty flower beds and lots of space to mingle comfortably. It is also easy to park close to their homes.
Whereas, in the city, we have much smaller backyards and houses, if any, and parking is a problem, at best. The people with the nice backyards just don't see the point of driving all the way in to the city for a less enjoyable experience. Some people are just friends because you live close by or you share common activities. Those friendships just are going to continue when the circumstances under which the friendship began are changed or eliminated. |
Anonymous
...are *not* going to continue.... |