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17 Year old seniors Death ( Walt Whitman High School )
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Anonymous
You are right - parents should tell their older teens and especially those heading to college that when they go out with friends whether to a party or a bar, to make sure when they leave, they leave with everyone they came with and to not leave anyone behind. I also think there needs to be more education regarding alcohol poisoning and how it can happen, what are the signs and how to get help. I remember back in college knowing what it was but wrongly believing it was something really rare. I am sorry for the loss of your son. |
Anonymous
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OP, I am so sorry for the loss of your son. We can only imagine the awful pain of your grief.
I think it's a normal human response to want to know the details of what his final hours were, and what happened in hopes that something could have gone differently. It sounds like you've done a lot to get answers, and maybe there are some answers you'll never find, which must be like daily torture. I'm so sorry. I am praying for your peace, whether or not you get all of those answers. He sounds like he was a wonderful son and it was a terrible tragedy and a set of accidental circumstances that were the difference between him being one of the many kids who drinks and ends up getting home okay, versus the nightmare you are living through. |
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OPs other posts, which are very moving:
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/719963.page Sadly, a lot of it is repeated. OP, I hope you are getting professional help. The awful thing in life, is that sometimes, there is no real resolution to the things we wish we could close. Sometimes, as hard as it is, you need to move on for your own health. I can’t even comprehend how difficult this must be for you. My condolences for your loss. |
Anonymous
NP - Please, this! I had a neighborhood friend whose child suffered a terrible accident due to teenage brain lack of impulse control. Friend has spent years blaming other teen the kid was with. Friend has alienated people around her and has never moved on to accept a new reality. Whole family suffers. It is a double tragedy. I am sorry for your loss and hope that you can heal and eventually find peace. |
Anonymous
| So sorry for your loss. I am sure you are having a hard time coping with this, any parent would. It seems that you are trying to be heard, and I admire your efforts to make underage drinking your crusade. Whatever your point of view on laws that make underage drinking such an anathema in this country are. As for others telling you to seek professional help, they don't understand, they have never experienced anything like you have, and on top of it are emotional robots who do not care or have the capacity for empathy. |
Anonymous
And this is the reason OP needs help. There is no shame in seeking help. Let’s be clear: nothing is being her son back, no matter how much she wants it to. Blame changes nothing, and if we’re clear and honest, her son is not without blame. There is nothing keeping OP from being heard, but she also needs to be honest to herself, and that’s not easy. Thats why she needs professional help. I’m not getting into the details, but he was hardly an “innocent”. Professional help can assist ANYONE in understanding their own loss, grief, motivation. I really don’t understand rhy you think it’s a bad suggestion. I was abused (due to no fault of my own, as I was 4-10years old) and it helped me find closure. Life is for the living. Things hurt. Many of us have causes we support. It doesn’t mean we need to be gutted every day of our lives. |
Anonymous
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OP Please contact the Wendt Center for Grief. 202-624-0010 They are a wonderful outfit, they will help you.
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Anonymous
Do you really think all the kids who drink or do drugs behave this way because their parents never taught them no to?? So all parents have to do is say "don't do that" and it's "problem solved." REALLY???? |
Anonymous
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Let's be nice here ladies. I have not lost a child but I did lose a spouse and I can't possibly express in words the way it felt. My heart goes out to this family and I do hope that the OP reaches out for some professional help.
The pain doesn't go away but the anger can. My spouse was murdered BTW. I was very angry and for various reasons, there was no "justice." |
Anonymous
| His autopsy says alcohol poisoning. Go see a therapist, mom. |
Anonymous
This. And I am sorry for your loss as well. I can’t imagine. My older daughter was raped a couple years ago. He was a serial rapist and sexual assaulter. The man just took a plea that will have him out in less than a decade. I have to manage my anger daily at this point. |
Anonymous
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‘Rumors’ at whitman were:
Navid/his friends show up to a whitman house party uninvited. It gets too loud so the parents tell people to leave, then the cops show up. Naivd and his friends told the cops there were no problems and that they were going home. His friends asked Navid for cash but he didn’t have any so they told him to call his own uber where he said he would just walk with one of his friends instead. The friend made it home fine but once Navid was by himself he was too drunk to navigate home. He bought the liquor in DC with the fake id that was found in his wallet. Parties happen a lot and his friends were negligent which is why he unfortunately passed. Nobody told the cops anything in the investigation because they didn’t want to face any charges and obviously they wouldn’t want to be associated with this. Look at the text history/snapchat messages if you still are able to and you can piece together what took place - Whitman Class of 2018 graduate |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
Please. Stop blaming police. His friends were sh*ts for letting him wander off in the cold while drunk. It's not their fault he died; it's his. But they should have called you. That's what friends do. |
Anonymous
| Op, please list where donations go otherwise your website looks like a way to make money not actually advocating for a cause. |