How to help my sister? She will not be a mom in this life.

[Anonymous]

Thought this was going to be about infertility. At this point, she is making a choice. If she - moving forward - wants to prioritize becoming a mom she can...she needs to leave her husband. If she chooses her husband, that's her choice too

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I adopted in my mid-40s. It’s hard to predict how life will play out.

A friend had his daughter when he was 50. His wife changed her mind and absolutely wanted a child. So they had one and he has been happy.

[Anonymous]

You can’t make her happy unless she decides what she wants and if she is willing to make any changes in her marriage to make that happen. You say he’s been quite. Has she spoken openly with him? Have they seen a counselor? Based on what you’ve said, they have a lot of discusssion to do that absolutely doesn’t involve you.

[Anonymous]

It's not a case of my sister not wanting to be a mother. She definitely does. She cried today. She doesn't feel like going anywhere, to friends, to party or to travel. She is going under depression. Her husband is absolutely mum on this topic. And divorce is the last thing. I try to take her to out but when it comes to third party invitation, she is not keen to go. I am afraid that she will end her life someday. She is approaching end of her biological cycle. I feel helpless too.

[Anonymous]

For those who are saying to butt out, please, because of not coming out to help ppl commit suicide. They need a shoulder to cry out or to talk. In USA I don't know why people are so private. She is my real sister, who will come forward to help her, to listen to her.

[Anonymous]

Didn't they discuss this when they were dating? Even they only dated for a short time and she didn't find out until after they married, she must have known for years. After all, she's been with him for 16 years. If she really wanted kids that badly, she could've divorced him a long time. Why is this bothering her now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister is married for 16 years. Her husband is quiet on not having a kid. How to help my sister to be happy? She refuses to go anywhere.

If she chooses to stay and be miserable you can't do anything for her. She's accepting things as they are by staying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But this wasn’t her choice. She really wants to be a mother. Her husband never revealed before about having a childless life. How can she keeps her mouth shut.

It is her choice to stay or leave