OMG with the sleeping...

[Anonymous]

My wife gives me blowjobs in her sleep. Hate it.

[Anonymous]

I struggle with insomnia and sleep pretty restlessly at night. Most nights I get up around midnight or 2:00 am and move to the guest room. When my husband or I are really lacking sleep I just start off in the guest room. I'm willing to do what I need to do in order for both of us to get sleep.

[Anonymous]

What size bed do you have? We have a king and it's AWESOME.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have any of you experienced awful nights sleeping with your partner for an extended period of time? My wife wakes me up, one way or another, every single night. She's either hot as a blast furnace or coughing or kicking me in her sleep or tossing/turning. I think she has major sleeping disorders, and when I talked with her Mom about this she just said, "oh yeah, she's never been a real big sleeper," like it was totally normal. WTF? How do you literally not sleep?

Facts:

She is slightly overweight, does not exercise, and is an occasional smoker. She generally doesn't eat much before bed.

I have tried for years to get her to see a sleep doctor in the area. We have some good ones. She got "burned" by an experience seeing one in Georgetown like 10 years ago and basically thinks its all hooey.

Nyquil, sleeping meds don't seem to do a thing, either. She has told me she needs to get her thyroid checked, has told me that for nearly two years, and cant quite get there with the scheduling. Same story with the sleep doctors, and her mammogram.

I'm a patient and tolerant man most of the time but I have been awoken by her between 3-5 am every night for the past two months and I'm starting to lose my shit. I thought when we had a kid 17 months ago that he would keep us up all night; quite the contrary, as he sleeps 8+ hours without waking every single night. I work from home and the lack of consistent sleep makes the prospect of napping-which I have never done-a real distraction during the day.

The solution is separate bedrooms.

[Anonymous]

Oh please. She's got as a blast furnace and tossing/turning? Maybe it's your deafening snoring that don't let her get comfortable....
Sorry, man, but she's not doing it to annoy you. Just sleep in a different room or get a bigger bed.

[Anonymous]

Separate bedrooms. DH and I started doing this a few months ago and I am kicking myself for not suggesting it sooner. He gets bouts of insomnia and I am a very light sleeper. Neither of us was getting much sleep and it was awful. Now, we are both rested and things are much more pleasant all around.

[Anonymous]

We sleep in different rooms. DH wakes up super early for work, and goes to bed early. No lack of intimacy or problems due to two different bedrooms.

[Anonymous]

I’m a terrible sleeper too. You need separate beds. I pity any fool who tries to sleep in the same bed as me because I thrash around all night and I can’t help it. I recently did 23andme and based on my dna they said I’m probably a light sleeper who moves around a lot in my sleep. Yep. Had no idea that was genetically wired but it is. You’re not going to change it so figure out a way to get some sleep in a different bed/room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What size bed do you have? We have a king and it's AWESOME.

+1
My husband used to wake me up all throughout the night with his tossing and turning and kicking and generally aggressive sleeping. That was in a queen bed. The King bed gives us each so much more space. Also, try getting your own blankets, op.

[Anonymous]

My dh and I have twin mattresses on a king platform bed, with separate sheets etc... It's saved our marriage. You can also have your own rooms, like many of the other posters.

[Anonymous]

If separate bedrooms is out, try raising the head of the bed 8 inches higher than the foot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have any of you experienced awful nights sleeping with your partner for an extended period of time? My wife wakes me up, one way or another, every single night. She's either hot as a blast furnace or coughing or kicking me in her sleep or tossing/turning. I think she has major sleeping disorders, and when I talked with her Mom about this she just said, "oh yeah, she's never been a real big sleeper," like it was totally normal. WTF? How do you literally not sleep?

Facts:

She is slightly overweight, does not exercise, and is an occasional smoker. She generally doesn't eat much before bed.

I have tried for years to get her to see a sleep doctor in the area. We have some good ones. She got "burned" by an experience seeing one in Georgetown like 10 years ago and basically thinks its all hooey.

Nyquil, sleeping meds don't seem to do a thing, either. She has told me she needs to get her thyroid checked, has told me that for nearly two years, and cant quite get there with the scheduling. Same story with the sleep doctors, and her mammogram.

I'm a patient and tolerant man most of the time but I have been awoken by her between 3-5 am every night for the past two months and I'm starting to lose my shit. I thought when we had a kid 17 months ago that he would keep us up all night; quite the contrary, as he sleeps 8+ hours without waking every single night. I work from home and the lack of consistent sleep makes the prospect of napping-which I have never done-a real distraction during the day.

Bro, it's...it's you. [/quote]

Is this meant to be funny? Just stop your womansplaining and trolling.

[Anonymous]

I empathize, OP. DH is a terrible sleep partner—he hogs the covers, snores, talks and yells in his sleep, and sweats even with the AC on. Separate bedrooms would help but he worries that our marriage will suffer if we no longer share a bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I empathize, OP. DH is a terrible sleep partner—he hogs the covers, snores, talks and yells in his sleep, and sweats even with the AC on. Separate bedrooms would help but he worries that our marriage will suffer if we no longer share a bed.

Depending on how bad the sleeping is, your marriage may already be suffering. I was so exhausted from not being able to sleep due to DH's snoring and thrashing that I was in a perpetual bad mood and started to get resentful about it. And DH would get frustrated when I would try to roll him over to get the snoring to stop, or when I'd try to pull the covers, because I'd end up waking him up. It's so much better all around for us now that we're in separate rooms.

[Anonymous]

It is very common for women as they get older to wake up a bunch at night. It sucks for her too. Did you ever consider that you may be waking her up? My husband is as I empathetic as you if I dare to breath wriong, but never considers him tearing off all the blankets or getting up to pee 20 times impacts me. So I just sleep in the guest room. He still does not sleep, but he has stopped blaming me.