Girlfriend Wants A Specific Ring..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. My girlfriend isn’t high maintence. She has never said she needs a ring of X value. She mentioned to her friend that she loves Asscher cut style rings, and when I did some looking, a good quality diamond and carat is expensive. Asscher cut sits lower, so 1.5-2.5 is ideal for that cut, which is expensive. She also like round. I don’t want to get her something she won’t like, but $30+ on a diamond is nuts. For reference, I make $250k and she makes $130k.

OP here. We run is a circle where majority of our friends all have rings between 1.5-3 carat. I don’t want to get her something very small.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$30-40k is a crazy amount. Don’t ever spend more than $5-10k.

Even my poor friends have rings that are more than 5k.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$30-40k is a crazy amount. Don’t ever spend more than $5-10k.

+1

This. Most women don't want to wear a ring everyday that is valued over 15k. The rings also resell for a fraction of their purchase cost.

If she insists on a 30-40k ring, think about pawn shops and jewelry resellers. Also, you may want to rethink some things if she insists on such an expensive ring.

The issue of depreciation from retail price is easily solved by buying on the secondary market.

[Anonymous]

Buy her the ring she wants. You never have to buy her jewelry after that. This one matters.

[Anonymous]

At your salaries 2 carat minimum

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$30-40k is a crazy amount. Don’t ever spend more than $5-10k.

Even my poor friends have rings that are more than 5k.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. My girlfriend isn’t high maintence. She has never said she needs a ring of X value. She mentioned to her friend that she loves Asscher cut style rings, and when I did some looking, a good quality diamond and carat is expensive. Asscher cut sits lower, so 1.5-2.5 is ideal for that cut, which is expensive. She also like round. I don’t want to get her something she won’t like, but $30+ on a diamond is nuts. For reference, I make $250k and she makes $130k.

What you mean is, asschers are cut deeper (otherwise they would be see-through in parts) so they face up smaller.

Get on James Allen and get a great round with GIA papers that faces up nicely.

[Anonymous]

Two months salary is standard. Unless you think she is clueless as to how much it costs and would rather you spend less, it's not unreasonable for you to spend 30k. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$30-40k is a crazy amount. Don’t ever spend more than $5-10k.

Even my poor friends have rings that are more than 5k.

Then they’re not truly “poor”. Gimme a break.

My ring was $6,000. Our HHI is 160k - is that poor to you, PP?

[Anonymous]

My ring was 5k. I was shocked. I would have been happy with a gemstone for all I care.

I hope she puts that much thought and desire into your relationship and future marriage. Rings and jewelry is kind of meaningless if you don’t have a solid foundation.

[Anonymous]

Have you looked at Vintage rings? You can find some very beautiful rings for a great price

[Anonymous]

You two need to TALK about it.
I designed my ring, and we discussed whether DH was OK with it. I would never have gone with something that he wasn't comfortable with.

[Anonymous]

That is a ludicrous amount of money to spend on a ring. Do people really judge on that???

[Anonymous]

Thank god my grandmother wanted DH to have the diamond from her ring to give me and he accepted. We make about $350K combined and I can’t imagine spending that sort of money on a ring. We probably run in circles where people do (most of our friends have more money than us); thankfully, we don’t run in circles where people talk about/comment on their ring or others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$30-40k is a crazy amount. Don’t ever spend more than $5-10k.

Even my poor friends have rings that are more than 5k.

Ridiculous. My ring was 2k and we picked it out together with an eye to both style and price. And we were both making about 180k at the time.