How to feel/appear comfortable with transgendered people

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think you're an idiot, OP, but I do think you're worrying too much. It's important to use the person's correct name and pronouns, but IME people making a sincere effort are forgiven honest mistakes. If your friend changed her name after divorce but you insisted on using her married name, that would be dickish. If you slipped up and used it, that might be unpleasant or even painful but would still just be an honest mistake that you resolved not to make again.

The OP is being judgmental. She can't bring herself to compliment someone's dress because it's too wild for her? Please. She's transphobic.

I can compliment a piece of clothing or shoes or find something that is right on anyone But honestly, overall it's usually not a good look, I feel like it would be doing them a favor to say.... dial it back a bit. Less is more.

I hope you're a troll. "The trans." Really? No wonder you're being corrected. You really do sound like an idiot.

I don't see where OP. Used the phrase "The trans" in this quoted message at all.

And she has a valid point. Sometimes I don't compliment people who are non transgender when they wear awful outfits. If the outfit is awful, then say nothing.

It doesn't sound like the OP is judgmental, she just sounds like a normal person who is dealing with the significant change of some life long friends. It's no un- accepting or not normal to not in a snap instance being totally comfortable with major friendship changes. Anyone who says otherwise is being unrealistic. OP just needs to continue doing what she is doing and the familiarity of the situation will increase and as it does so will his/her comfort level.