Advice needed for 16 year old

[Anonymous]

Ummm....one of the most important aspects to becoming an adult is learning that when they live in someone else's house (or go to a job, or school, or travel, etc) they live by a set of rules.

Alcohol in the house is a "no" because it's illegal and that much vodka is dangerous. The boyfriend thing- no, because they may have sex and she might get pregnant or get an STD.
You may not be able to control what she does away from you
and you hope she exercises judgement and good values. You certainly can control what goes on in your home.

[Anonymous]

You have a right to privacy and your mom should respect that, but if you are in a small home with limited bathrooms, you need to be in and out quickly.

Additionally your naked body does not phase your mom. She wiped your butt, tended to your little oenis after you were circumcised or tended to the uncircumcised penis to make sure the skin didnt attach. You got all your nutritional needs from her breasts and you came out of her vagina. Your naked body does not even register in her brain.

[Anonymous]

I hope you dumped the alcohol out and took away the car keys (assuming she's driving). And no way is she allowed to be alone all day inside the house with her boyfriend. The end.

[Anonymous]

Lol! Wrong post

[Anonymous]

Big no on vodka both because it is illegal and because kids die from alcohol poisoning.

I don't let kids drink in my house although I will pick up drunk kids and take them home either to their home or mine if not too drunk.

I put my DD on the pill to help manage period pain. Have not yet had to fend requests about boys.

[Anonymous]

Op here
Yes of course I poured it down the drain. She cried and said it wasn’t her money that paid for it and now her friends will be upset. I told her that it is unacceptable to store liquor in our house.
For those who were asking we live just outside Toronto Ontario (for my husbands job.) drinking age here is 19 and her friends brother bought it for them.we have talked about responsible drinking, alcohol poisoning etc.

Thanks for all the responses!

[Anonymous]

I wonder if this is teen DD actually posting. I don't know any moms who write and talk like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you know how many teenagers 4 bottles of vodka can kill? This isn't about kids knocking back beers. Teenagers die or nearly die of alcohol poisoning All The Time and hard liquor is the culprit. Girls are especially vulnerable.

So, no, she shouldn't be allowed to have friends over when you're not home. Also, find out which one of her friends has a fake ID, if she doesn't have one herself. If she really is hanging out with 21-year-olds, you should be extra concerned. Find out who her older friends are.

PSI. Thank you, PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have a right to privacy and your mom should respect that, but if you are in a small home with limited bathrooms, you need to be in and out quickly.

Additionally your naked body does not phase your mom. She wiped your butt, tended to your little oenis after you were circumcised or tended to the uncircumcised penis to make sure the skin didnt attach. You got all your nutritional needs from her breasts and you came out of her vagina. Your naked body does not even register in her brain.

Wtf?

[Anonymous]

What do you think?

[Anonymous]

Our 16 (nearly 17) year old son is not allowed at his girlfriend's house, nor is she allowed here, without a parent home. We're not stupid, we know that if they want to have sex they will find a way, but there's no way in hell we're making it easy for them. As for the alcohol, why on Earth would you not just dump it out? You need to have an honest talk with your daughter about alcohol, and what happens when people use too much of it. That their judgment is impaired, and they can make unfortunate decisions with serious consequences that can last a lifetime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was doing waaaayyyy more than she is when I was her age, I just didn’t get caught.

Who knows what she's doing? Maybe she just hasn't been caught yet, either.

I want to know what OP was doing at 16 besides having all day Sexathons and chugging 4 bottles of VODKA. Do tell OP. (Good Lord).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I found 4 bottles of vodka in my daughters closet. I calmly approached her and told her I don’t want alcohol stored in the house as I have younger kids too. Apparently an older kid bought it for a group of them and she volunteered to keep it, until the next party. This is generally a good kid, responsible, good student, content, very likeable etc.

Also, She has a boyfriend and she thinks they should be able to be alone in the house for the day. I am lost. I was doing waaaayyyy more than she is when I was her age, I just didn’t get caught. Part of me thinks she needs more freedom as she will be going to University next year, and part of me thinks I need to enforce rules.

What are your rules for your 16 year old? Boys allowed at home when you aren’t there? Do you allow your kids to drink at parties?

Perhaps parents should be asking if they want their child to get pregnant, have an abortion, get STDs, or how about alcohol poisoning?

You are DELUSIONAL.

[Anonymous]

OP, American (US) advice on this is not going to be useful to you as the drinking age here is 21.

If you were asking about a 19 year old home from college, storing vodka for her 21 year old friends, that would be a more similar situation for us.

[Anonymous]

If anyone gets hurt or worse due to the alcohol consumption, or get in a car accident. YOU will be co-responsible for the enabling.
You have to understand that whatever you did and got away as a kid has nothing to do with what is your job and responsibilities as a parent.
You are not that kid anymore and you are not your kids friend. You are their parent. You can and should use your experience as a kid to
know how kids operate and what to expect and use it to your advantage. Your job is to protect your child, even if it is from themselves. Kid is your responsibility until they are grown up and then anything they do, smart or stupid .. you can do very little other then provide emotional support and advice when asked.