Does anyone else experience sister rivalry?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, sort of. It doesn't make me feel awful, but I have resentment she started out so behind and needy and due to receiving 80% of all parental attention, has excelled more than anticipated. Marrying someone who makes a lot of money has also upped the game now that my partner and I look like "major losers" with a combined income around 400k. Like if you're not in hedge fund money you're a fool. I just kind of keep my distance and try to temper resentment since no one here is a bad person.

Op here.

Yes. My sister also married a similar type Of guy to my husband but her husband’s parents are loaded. As such they treat them to lots of $$ for trips and other expenses. She gets showered in love and expensive presents every Christmas and holidays.

Meanwhile she has also stolen my friends! In the group we grew up together, she became closer to who I considered my best friend. Now both of them are best friends and meet up independently of me.

I am so sick of being hurt!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, sort of. It doesn't make me feel awful, but I have resentment she started out so behind and needy and due to receiving 80% of all parental attention, has excelled more than anticipated. Marrying someone who makes a lot of money has also upped the game now that my partner and I look like "major losers" with a combined income around 400k. Like if you're not in hedge fund money you're a fool. I just kind of keep my distance and try to temper resentment since no one here is a bad person.

Op here.

Yes. My sister also married a similar type Of guy to my husband but her husband’s parents are loaded. As such they treat them to lots of $$ for trips and other expenses. She gets showered in love and expensive presents every Christmas and holidays.

Meanwhile she has also stolen my friends! In the group we grew up together, she became closer to who I considered my best friend. Now both of them are best friends and meet up independently of me.

I am so sick of being hurt!

I think you’ve posted here before. Really, you need to see someone to help deal with your feelings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get it OP. I think you have to experience to get it.

I do too. Mine even “stole” baby name I was going to use (she gave birth 3 months earlier and refused to share the name, while I did). When we were younger, she had to have my friends, had to have my boyfriend, etc. It’s hard to explain to those who were not the victim of a competitive sibling.

[Anonymous]

You have posted this before OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get it OP. I think you have to experience to get it.

I do too. Mine even “stole” baby name I was going to use (she gave birth 3 months earlier and refused to share the name, while I did). When we were younger, she had to have my friends, had to have my boyfriend, etc. It’s hard to explain to those who were not the victim of a competitive sibling.

Are you older or younger? I posted above about a similar dynamic. I am older, and can see my younger sibling doing the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have posted this before OP.

Who cares, other than you, *if* she has? This forum is a place for seeking perspective, and she's doing that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have posted this before OP.

Who cares, other than you, *if* she has? This forum is a place for seeking perspective, and she's doing that.

DP, who has made the same observation that the PP has. The OP doesn’t seem to care about gaining perspective or helpful advice, because she’s gotten more than plenty of both, yet she still keeps posting the same problem over....and over....and over....again. This says it all:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg&time_continue=80

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get it OP. I think you have to experience to get it.

I do too. Mine even “stole” baby name I was going to use (she gave birth 3 months earlier and refused to share the name, while I did). When we were younger, she had to have my friends, had to have my boyfriend, etc. It’s hard to explain to those who were not the victim of a competitive sibling.

Are you older or younger? I posted above about a similar dynamic. I am older, and can see my younger sibling doing the same.

I am older, but we are less than a year apart.

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand competitive people. It seems like a sad way to live.