Good books to read to have interesting conversation with a liberal single mom

[Anonymous]

As a single mom, I find your question perplexing. You want to pretend to be interested in books that she might be interested in?

She's a mom and probably a stressed one. Ask her questions about her life and her kids. Be kind to her. Offer to help her fix things around the house. These are the kinds of things she will be grateful for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you romantically interested in her?

If so, don’t pretend to have tastes or habits that you really abhor.

Post divorce, I wasted months dating a guy who ultimately told me he didn’t believe in God (I’m religious), hated sci-fi (I’m a huge nerd), and couldn’t see how I reconciled the two. Why spend months attending Mass with me, then binge-watching BSG? And, don’t say just for sex. There’s plenty of sex available with people who don’t love things that you hate!

Yes but she's not ready to be in a relationship yet so we're in friends zone right now but I like her company and want to our conversation to stay ineresting.

Find something you both genuinely like. If you can’t, don’t fake affinity.

Also, you will likely never move out of friend zone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you romantically interested in her?

If so, don’t pretend to have tastes or habits that you really abhor.

Post divorce, I wasted months dating a guy who ultimately told me he didn’t believe in God (I’m religious), hated sci-fi (I’m a huge nerd), and couldn’t see how I reconciled the two. Why spend months attending Mass with me, then binge-watching BSG? And, don’t say just for sex. There’s plenty of sex available with people who don’t love things that you hate!

Yes but she's not ready to be in a relationship yet so we're in friends zone right now but I like her company and want to our conversation to stay ineresting.

Find something you both genuinely like. If you can’t, don’t fake affinity.

Also, you will likely never move out of friend zone.

If she were into you, she wouldn't have told you she wasn't ready for a relationship. That's a classic line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you romantically interested in her?

If so, don’t pretend to have tastes or habits that you really abhor.

Post divorce, I wasted months dating a guy who ultimately told me he didn’t believe in God (I’m religious), hated sci-fi (I’m a huge nerd), and couldn’t see how I reconciled the two. Why spend months attending Mass with me, then binge-watching BSG? And, don’t say just for sex. There’s plenty of sex available with people who don’t love things that you hate!

Yes but she's not ready to be in a relationship yet so we're in friends zone right now but I like her company and want to our conversation to stay ineresting.

New York Review of Books

[Anonymous]

Karl Marx, 'Das Kapital'.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you romantically interested in her?

If so, don’t pretend to have tastes or habits that you really abhor.

Post divorce, I wasted months dating a guy who ultimately told me he didn’t believe in God (I’m religious), hated sci-fi (I’m a huge nerd), and couldn’t see how I reconciled the two. Why spend months attending Mass with me, then binge-watching BSG? And, don’t say just for sex. There’s plenty of sex available with people who don’t love things that you hate!

Yes but she's not ready to be in a relationship yet so we're in friends zone right now but I like her company and want to our conversation to stay ineresting.

Find something you both genuinely like. If you can’t, don’t fake affinity.

Also, you will likely never move out of friend zone.

If she were into you, she wouldn't have told you she wasn't ready for a relationship. That's a classic line.

+1 (from a single mom who isn't ready to be in a relationship with a guy she isn't ever going to be ready to be in a relationship with)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People love to talk about themselves. Tell her you're in a reading rut and ask her to recommend something. And ask her why she likes it.

fTW!!!!! So true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People love to talk about themselves. Tell her you're in a reading rut and ask her to recommend something. And ask her why she likes it.

fTW!!!!! So true.

Well, maybe, but if a man couldn't name a book he'd recently read, I'd be giving major side-eye. So be sure to have some examples of things you read recently and liked.

[Anonymous]

Lolita.

[Anonymous]

I’m not a reader, but I do like podcasts about smart things link history, philosophy. You could listen to some book review podcasts just to familiarize yourself with some books she might have read or might be interested in.

Maybe there’s one that she listens that she can suggest.

[Anonymous]

I'm a "liberal single mom" and used to be quite a reader. I haven't read a book in eons now. Maybe it will change when my kids are older, but just something to consider.

[Anonymous]

At least OP is dissembling he’s interested in her brain rather than dissembling he’s interested in her kids. Still, just another trap for single moms. There are so many available women, why on earth do some losers play with the emotions of someone who has children.

[Anonymous]

Read the abstracts and conclusions of a couple of academic studies in her field.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At least OP is dissembling he’s interested in her brain rather than dissembling he’s interested in her kids. Still, just another trap for single moms. There are so many available women, why on earth do some losers play with the emotions of someone who has children.

I actually do better with dating after having kids. I've had two marriage proposals in last three years from great guys, but I don't plan to remarry until the kids are out of the house.

I think I am less selfish and more nurturing now since I am used to taking care of others and not thinking just about myself. I'm a better listener and have become a great cook since we eat at home now more. But I am in great shape and look good too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you romantically interested in her?

If so, don’t pretend to have tastes or habits that you really abhor.

Post divorce, I wasted months dating a guy who ultimately told me he didn’t believe in God (I’m religious), hated sci-fi (I’m a huge nerd), and couldn’t see how I reconciled the two. Why spend months attending Mass with me, then binge-watching BSG? And, don’t say just for sex. There’s plenty of sex available with people who don’t love things that you hate!

He did those things to make you happy and you dumped him? I’m trying to figure out which one is more above and beyond the call: Palm Sunday mass or Battlestar season 3.

Problem is, people can only keep up doing things to make the other person happy for so long. Once they had been together awhile, or worse married, he'd drop the facade and PP would be stuck with a guy she doesn't have anything in common with.

I recommend OP think carefully about his plan. Eventually he'll get sick of having to read so many books and she'll get bored of him.

Personally, when dealing with people who like intellectual conversations, I tell them there's only one kind of self-pleasure I'm into.