Are you TRULY very attractive? If so, how does it affect your professional life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a co-worker who is drop-dead gorgeous. She works in the accounting department, and does a good job, but seems very shy and isn't particularly gregarious (or even very friendly.) Like all she wanted to do was come into the office, do her work well, be generally cordial, and then go home.

Several years ago she worked in the cube next to me, and all of the guys (older, younger, married, not - you name it) were ALWAYS stopping by her desk and asking her to lunch, having really awkward conversations with her, bringing her little gifts. They didn't seem to think of her much professionally, though.

And the older women were a little bit cruel to her, saying little remarks about the salad she's eating for lunch at her desk (well that's why Lena's so skinny - she only eats salads. Get a burger will ya!), or little comments about her work, or her accent (she is from Russia.)

She got married and had a baby (which quashed all of the lunch invites) and eventually asked to move to a cubicle toward the back of the office, so she wasn't in anyone's line of site anymore. I don't think it was because she thought she was so attractive it was distracting, more like she just doesn't like to be bothered.

The funny thing is, she didn't do anything to instigate this behavior - it was all projection from others. All she did was look totally gorgeous and slim all the time, with great style. She just is who she is, but other people couldn't seem to handle it.

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I have friends who experience the same attitude and behaviors of the woman you describe. I think people assume she "has an easy life". In reality, she is bright and pretty, and does her own thing - the part where she does her own thing is what I and her friends like most about her. Insecure women don't like it when they think another woman has something that they don't, but they can't do a damn thing about it, which really sends them over the edge. It says more about them than my friend. I think the woman you described, PP, who moved out of the other womens' line of sight, is really onto something - and wise!

[Anonymous]

I dated a truly beautiful woman for a few years (think Grace Kelly), but she'd suffered some abuse before I met her. She often complained that guys saw her beauty when she really wished they saw her pain. Like Rita Hayworth, 'every man went to bed with Gilda but woke up with me.'

[Anonymous]

I was very naturally beautiful and unusual looking. But I was a late bloomer so I didn't feel self confident in my beauty. While some people treated me better mainly men, most women were mean often in a backstabbing way, many men just wanted to sleep with me. It made me mistrusting of men and women. I would have been happier to be average looking and have good girl friends and one guy who feel in love with me for my true self vs. exterior.

[Anonymous]

When I was in the hospital, one of my L&D nurses could have passed for Grace Kelly. She's gorgeous, yet she spent her days cleaning up bed pans and removing catheters, so I'm not sure her looks affect her professional life in a significant way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was in the hospital, one of my L&D nurses could have passed for Grace Kelly. She's gorgeous, yet she spent her days cleaning up bed pans and removing catheters, so I'm not sure her looks affect her professional life in a significant way.

Maybe that’s what she wants to do.
And for some beautiful people, it takes more than just looks. You have to be interesting

[Anonymous]

Very attractive. Helped me attract a high earner and I don’t have to work.

[Anonymous]

I think it probably hurts me. I'm young (28) and look younger, and as an attorney I think I sometimes don't get the respect that my experience and ability deserve, especially from male OC.

[Anonymous]

I think it depends if you are applying to an office with a male or female hiring manager. Women usually will not hire a woman based on her looks. They look more for someone who is professional and well put together. Where as men go for the hot ones. I am average looking, but look very put together and professional and I've only ever been hired by women. My sister is hot with big boobs and she has only worked in offices with male management. Just my perspective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Very attractive. Helped me attract a high earner and I don’t have to work.

So your profession was to marry for money?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very attractive. Helped me attract a high earner and I don’t have to work.

So your profession was to marry for money?

A beautiful women needs a mink on her back, jaguar in driveway, tiger in bed and a jackass to pay for it all.

[Anonymous]

I’ve always been a popular colleague and teacher. I’m not necessarily funny or sweet. Just pretty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:jennifer gates who is bill gates daughter is hot and rich. Sucks for her

that's a stretch. rich, yes but daddy isn't giving her any money. and hot? ...more like "cute".

[Anonymous]

I know I was attractive 13-32 because I could date (not just sleep with but actually date) any guy I set my sights on, regardless of how good looking he was. I ended up marrying a successful guy of my choosing. Now I’m almost 44. I don’t think I’ve aged particularly well. Some women do, some don’t. I look old.

[Anonymous]

It's hurt me in interviews in the past. I once had a great first interview, was called back with a second and met with two not very attractive overweight women who didn't give me the time of day.

The flip side is that the CEO of my company knows who I am. He doesn't know many of the other attorneys lower than the AGC level. I'd like to say he knows me because of my great work, but he doesn't have a clue about my work product. He's invited me to events that no other lawyer has been invited to only because he can remember my name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know I was attractive 13-32 because I could date (not just sleep with but actually date) any guy I set my sights on, regardless of how good looking he was. I ended up marrying a successful guy of my choosing. Now I’m almost 44. I don’t think I’ve aged particularly well. Some women do, some don’t. I look old.

Again why responding to a thread about professions about your love life??