stay at home moms

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men: Learn from this and BEWARE! If you allow your wife to stay at home she will:
1) Find excuse after excuse to never return to work.
2) Complain how you don't "contribute" because she couldn't hold up her end of the bargain.
3) Balloon to the size of a beached whale.
And now...
4) Regress to the intelligence level of a middle schooler.

I only did #1 on your list.

[Anonymous]

Just ignore it. If they bring up what happened say "I'm so happy we're getting to know each other, but it sounds like this is between you and Cindy. I am going to stay out of it."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does the middle school drama never end?

If you want to hang out with them, do it. If not, don’t.

Personally, I like everyone and would probably be friends with both groups. I don’t participate in gossip so if anyone starts gossiping, I just change the subject.

+1

There is an occasional "stuck in middle school", socially stunted mom almost everywhere. Everyone knows who it is, trust me. OP, avoid the drama, and stay out of it. If you must hang out with the drama prone mom, make sure she knows that you do not partake in gossip and drama. Shut it down right away, ie: "wow, I know (another mom mentioned, in attempt to bait gossip) and she is really nice, I've never had a problem with her. (Say something positive and neutral about subject, here. Ex Not only is she kind and sweet, she is quite accomplished, in her own right!" Done. If you partake/take drama mom's bait, it is only a matter of time before you are on drama mom's radar. FWIW, I have known moms who stay friends with the "drama mom" - thinking that they will avoid drama, but that doesn't happen, that is how drama moms operate, by default - they need gossip and drama, that is how they get by in life. Not a good/productive/positive way for most of us to live, but we all know who that troubled mom is.

I have seen that kind of antisocial behavior toward nice mom by socially stunted mom, when the socially stunted mom doesn't even know and has not talked to the nice mom - but somehow finds her a threat ie: nice mom makes socially stunted look bad, just by existing. The nice mom simply has a lot more going for her in life, that's all (while not perfect, she knows how to deal). That is socially stunted mom's problem, OP, not yours. People are not stupid, they know that socially stunted mom has issues. Find the nice truly people (hint: not the one who says she is a "good person"), OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does the middle school drama never end?

If you want to hang out with them, do it. If not, don’t.

Personally, I like everyone and would probably be friends with both groups. I don’t participate in gossip so if anyone starts gossiping, I just change the subject.

+1

There is an occasional "stuck in middle school", socially stunted mom almost everywhere. Everyone knows who it is, trust me. OP, avoid the drama, and stay out of it. If you must hang out with the drama prone mom, make sure she knows that you do not partake in gossip and drama. Shut it down right away, ie: "wow, I know (another mom mentioned, in attempt to bait gossip) and she is really nice, I've never had a problem with her. (Say something positive and neutral about subject, here. Ex Not only is she kind and sweet, she is quite accomplished, in her own right!" Done. If you partake/take drama mom's bait, it is only a matter of time before you are on drama mom's radar. FWIW, I have known moms who stay friends with the "drama mom" - thinking that they will avoid drama, but that doesn't happen, that is how drama moms operate, by default - they need gossip and drama, that is how they get by in life. Not a good/productive/positive way for most of us to live, but we all know who that troubled mom is.

I have seen that kind of antisocial behavior toward nice mom by socially stunted mom, when the socially stunted mom doesn't even know and has not talked to the nice mom - but somehow finds her a threat ie: nice mom makes socially stunted look bad, just by existing. The nice mom simply has a lot more going for her in life, that's all (while not perfect, she knows how to deal). That is socially stunted mom's problem, OP, not yours. People are not stupid, they know that socially stunted mom has issues. Find the nice truly people (hint: not the one who says she is a "good person"), OP.

Taking your advice then the socially stunted mom is the one that asked me for my phone number for a playdate and never actually texted me thus telling me SHE IS PLAYING GAMES like in middle school and I should avoid her LIKE THE PLAGUE. I was right to be suspicious! The other mom she was fighting with is really nice and sweet!! OMG thank you, you totally understand. Good God, I hate being a sahm sometimes because of socially stunted mom!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does the middle school drama never end?

If you want to hang out with them, do it. If not, don’t.

Personally, I like everyone and would probably be friends with both groups. I don’t participate in gossip so if anyone starts gossiping, I just change the subject.

+1

There is an occasional "stuck in middle school", socially stunted mom almost everywhere. Everyone knows who it is, trust me. OP, avoid the drama, and stay out of it. If you must hang out with the drama prone mom, make sure she knows that you do not partake in gossip and drama. Shut it down right away, ie: "wow, I know (another mom mentioned, in attempt to bait gossip) and she is really nice, I've never had a problem with her. (Say something positive and neutral about subject, here. Ex Not only is she kind and sweet, she is quite accomplished, in her own right!" Done. If you partake/take drama mom's bait, it is only a matter of time before you are on drama mom's radar. FWIW, I have known moms who stay friends with the "drama mom" - thinking that they will avoid drama, but that doesn't happen, that is how drama moms operate, by default - they need gossip and drama, that is how they get by in life. Not a good/productive/positive way for most of us to live, but we all know who that troubled mom is.

I have seen that kind of antisocial behavior toward nice mom by socially stunted mom, when the socially stunted mom doesn't even know and has not talked to the nice mom - but somehow finds her a threat ie: nice mom makes socially stunted look bad, just by existing. The nice mom simply has a lot more going for her in life, that's all (while not perfect, she knows how to deal). That is socially stunted mom's problem, OP, not yours. People are not stupid, they know that socially stunted mom has issues. Find the nice truly people (hint: not the one who says she is a "good person"), OP.

Taking your advice then the socially stunted mom is the one that asked me for my phone number for a playdate and never actually texted me thus telling me SHE IS PLAYING GAMES like in middle school and I should avoid her LIKE THE PLAGUE. I was right to be suspicious! The other mom she was fighting with is really nice and sweet!! OMG thank you, you totally understand. Good God, I hate being a sahm sometimes because of socially stunted mom!

and she is really pretty! I think socially stunted mom is threatened!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does the middle school drama never end?

If you want to hang out with them, do it. If not, don’t.

Personally, I like everyone and would probably be friends with both groups. I don’t participate in gossip so if anyone starts gossiping, I just change the subject.

+1

There is an occasional "stuck in middle school", socially stunted mom almost everywhere. Everyone knows who it is, trust me. OP, avoid the drama, and stay out of it. If you must hang out with the drama prone mom, make sure she knows that you do not partake in gossip and drama. Shut it down right away, ie: "wow, I know (another mom mentioned, in attempt to bait gossip) and she is really nice, I've never had a problem with her. (Say something positive and neutral about subject, here. Ex Not only is she kind and sweet, she is quite accomplished, in her own right!" Done. If you partake/take drama mom's bait, it is only a matter of time before you are on drama mom's radar. FWIW, I have known moms who stay friends with the "drama mom" - thinking that they will avoid drama, but that doesn't happen, that is how drama moms operate, by default - they need gossip and drama, that is how they get by in life. Not a good/productive/positive way for most of us to live, but we all know who that troubled mom is.

I have seen that kind of antisocial behavior toward nice mom by socially stunted mom, when the socially stunted mom doesn't even know and has not talked to the nice mom - but somehow finds her a threat ie: nice mom makes socially stunted look bad, just by existing. The nice mom simply has a lot more going for her in life, that's all (while not perfect, she knows how to deal). That is socially stunted mom's problem, OP, not yours. People are not stupid, they know that socially stunted mom has issues. Find the nice truly people (hint: not the one who says she is a "good person"), OP.

Taking your advice then the socially stunted mom is the one that asked me for my phone number for a playdate and never actually texted me thus telling me SHE IS PLAYING GAMES like in middle school and I should avoid her LIKE THE PLAGUE. I was right to be suspicious! The other mom she was fighting with is really nice and sweet!! OMG thank you, you totally understand. Good God, I hate being a sahm sometimes because of socially stunted mom!

PP here. Yes! Don't get wrapped up in drama mom's drama. Don't take the bait, trust your instincts. Some moms are quite good at being SAHMs, and some just are not, and they make up immature games to keep themselves busy. Don't fall for it, stay away. Drama mom usually likes to label other moms. For example, drama mom will call the nice mom "fake" or whatever. Easier to stay away from drama mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does the middle school drama never end?

If you want to hang out with them, do it. If not, don’t.

Personally, I like everyone and would probably be friends with both groups. I don’t participate in gossip so if anyone starts gossiping, I just change the subject.

+1

There is an occasional "stuck in middle school", socially stunted mom almost everywhere. Everyone knows who it is, trust me. OP, avoid the drama, and stay out of it. If you must hang out with the drama prone mom, make sure she knows that you do not partake in gossip and drama. Shut it down right away, ie: "wow, I know (another mom mentioned, in attempt to bait gossip) and she is really nice, I've never had a problem with her. (Say something positive and neutral about subject, here. Ex Not only is she kind and sweet, she is quite accomplished, in her own right!" Done. If you partake/take drama mom's bait, it is only a matter of time before you are on drama mom's radar. FWIW, I have known moms who stay friends with the "drama mom" - thinking that they will avoid drama, but that doesn't happen, that is how drama moms operate, by default - they need gossip and drama, that is how they get by in life. Not a good/productive/positive way for most of us to live, but we all know who that troubled mom is.

I have seen that kind of antisocial behavior toward nice mom by socially stunted mom, when the socially stunted mom doesn't even know and has not talked to the nice mom - but somehow finds her a threat ie: nice mom makes socially stunted look bad, just by existing. The nice mom simply has a lot more going for her in life, that's all (while not perfect, she knows how to deal). That is socially stunted mom's problem, OP, not yours. People are not stupid, they know that socially stunted mom has issues. Find the nice truly people (hint: not the one who says she is a "good person"), OP.

Taking your advice then the socially stunted mom is the one that asked me for my phone number for a playdate and never actually texted me thus telling me SHE IS PLAYING GAMES like in middle school and I should avoid her LIKE THE PLAGUE. I was right to be suspicious! The other mom she was fighting with is really nice and sweet!! OMG thank you, you totally understand. Good God, I hate being a sahm sometimes because of socially stunted mom!

PP here. Yes! Don't get wrapped up in drama mom's drama. Don't take the bait, trust your instincts. Some moms are quite good at being SAHMs, and some just are not, and they make up immature games to keep themselves busy. Don't fall for it, stay away. Drama mom usually likes to label other moms. For example, drama mom will call the nice mom "fake" or whatever. Easier to stay away from drama mom.

Thank you, you just saved my sanity. I like someone else on here was saying I was the dramatic one? Hello, I was posting because I was being sucked in and didn't want to be. Thank you PP.