What advice would you give an early 40s woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not 50 yet but reading this forum I have learned the following things so far:
1. Take care of your health -get physical, dental, resolve those minor issues or elective surgery you have been putting off as it takes body longer to heal older you get.
2. Start eating healthy and exercise routine to keep off weight
3. If you have been thinking about leaving your partner/ get a new partner do it now while you are still looking relatively youthful
4. Do that safari or other active travel you have been putting off. Cruises can wait
5. Start looking at your finances and where you might want to live for the next 30 years in active retirement and beyond

Yup. I'm im my 60s. Get rid of too much weight now, BUT, don't obsess about it too much. Accept what you are physically because one day you'll look back on a photo and smile...you look great, really.

I'm seconding the finances. There are a shit ton of things YOU DON'T NEED. Money is freedom from when you are ready. Being ready is important. My friends are unhappy working in jobs they wish they could leave. Even if you are great at your job, love it, etc., the world perceives you differently from 55 on...and really at 60.

Your job isn't your life. Your friends and family are.

[Anonymous]

Don't look down on older women assuming their problems will never be yours or that "that won't happen to me because I will be able to prevent _______."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't look down on older women assuming their problems will never be yours or that "that won't happen to me because I will be able to prevent _______."

Yep- this .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Quit coming to a 50+ thread and live your life, you don't really think you will have these problems anyway.

NP- see, that’s where you’re wrong. Those of us in our early 40’s have always looked up to you all who are now in your early 50s. Your were the true subjects of all of John Highes’s films. You were cooler, wore cuter clothes (we got stuck with keds...followed by flannel shirts and light denim jeans that were baggy on our buts and tight on our calves. We’ve always wanted...nay, needed...your advice. Hand it over ladies. Get back to that moment where you were THE senior, staring at your beautiful hair, and vaguely remember that little neighbor girl who always ran out the door when Keith’s Trans-Am would pull into your driveway.

Ok, now seriously, we are all old ladies...just hand over the goods!!

Ha! I'm 45 and this made me laugh-very true!