Do you regret your family size?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two. Wish I had 4.

Same here. I grew up in a family of four and I HATE that my kids don't get to have what I had/ve

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two. I wish that I was the type of parent that could handle more because I think down the road, lots of kids is a huge gift. But I recognize my limits. So two it is. No regrets.

This is exactly how I feel

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents had 5 and say they wish they had more now that we are all in our 20s.

We have five. Four grown. One about to head to college. I can understand how your parents feel. If we had felt financially and emotionally capable of caring for one more, I would have loved six. I miss those fun, crazy days when all the kids were home. They are so close now as young adults. It's wonderful to see. We had two of the older kids home for Easter. And my grandkids! It was just the best! DH and I are only 50. I'm hoping we will have a houseful of grandchildren!

[Anonymous]

I have 3, wish I had one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two. I wish that I was the type of parent that could handle more because I think down the road, lots of kids is a huge gift. But I recognize my limits. So two it is. No regrets.

This is exactly how I feel

This is how I feel and I have one.

[Anonymous]

We have two, a 4 and 2 year old. That's enough for me. They play together well enough. I think our oldest would hate having to share us with another plus I get the feeling that sometimes with three one is the odd one out and he is very sensitive. With all of their demands I've met my limit with two. And they're both potty trained!

[Anonymous]

No. We have two and that is plenty. The world is crowded enough.

[Anonymous]

We have 2 and wish we had 5. Financially, this is probably it for us but I do have fears of regret later in life.

[Anonymous]

We have two- twins- a complete surprise for us. Sometimes I think one more would be kind of fun. However our family definitely feels complete.

[Anonymous]

I have two kids, ages 1 and 3. Honestly I would have had more if they didn’t interfere with my sleep so much !!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have two- twins- a complete surprise for us. Sometimes I think one more would be kind of fun. However our family definitely feels complete.

I have an overwhelming feeling that you will have one more.

[Anonymous]

I have one due to secondary infertility (unexplained). Tried for 4 years to have a second and gave up. I feel sad every day that I can't have another. I think two is the perfect number.

[Anonymous]

I have two. They’re 7 and 3. I love the IDEA of having more, however...our money is not unlimited. Right now we travel a lot, put a lot of money into the kids’ college accounts, eat out, etc. Having another one would mean that we wouldn’t be able to do that as much, and I’m not into that. I also just feel like the world is made for four. Like, hotel rooms, for example sleep four.

[Anonymous]

When I was a very young woman, I dreamt of having four.

I an AMA, so at some point I just dreamed of having one, a little girl.

When I got married, we planned on three. It was our number. We got one of each before the marriage ended.

Now that I'm divorced, I am glad for the two that I have. Honestly, it felt like the family lost two people when the marriage soured, not-so-DH and the last child we meant to have.

With all the sibling rivalry we have going on now though, I do remember my third occasionally, and think how two may have ganged up on one or isolated them, depending on the gender. And, when DS cries about his wish for a brother, I admit to feeling a little guilty.

Maybe my next marriage with come with a new son. That would be nice.

Your sense of family, and its size, changes over the years and circumstance, like buying a new house or funding the college accounts, taking a family vacation, a job loss, etc.

My DS picked up a saying at camp and I've followed ever since, "You get what you get and you don't get upset." Easy to say; harder to do.

[Anonymous]

We tabled plans for a 3rd after a m/c a and new (demanding) job. But we couldn't let it go and every time I saw a family with 3 kids I wanted that dynamic for my family. So we tried one more time and now our family is complete. I never look at a family of 4 and want that. I think you know when you know.