Divorcing with kids and last name change.

[Anonymous]

OP, I’m in the same situation as you. I’m planning to change it back. I regret changing it in the first place!

[Anonymous]

My children want my maiden name. I hyphenated and people still refer to me by only my maiden name. Even my office email has it!

It feels like the world knew the marriage wouldn’t last.

I told the children that they can change it when they are 18. I don’t want to deal with their father on this, even though I have full legal and physical custody. The form requires his okay. I could get around it, but it would be costly and put us back in touch. No, thank you.

I hyphenated to match my children, whom I chose to give his last name as we were not married when DC1 was born. I should have listened to my parents. The line ends with my father, unless we go through with the change. So, that plays a role too

[Anonymous]

Change it back. My DH’s ex wife still has his name and it’s extremely weird to me, especially now that he’s remarried.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Change it back. My DH’s ex wife still has his name and it’s extremely weird to me, especially now that he’s remarried.

Threatened much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
My children want my maiden name. I hyphenated and people still refer to me by only my maiden name. Even my office email has it!

It feels like the world knew the marriage wouldn’t last.

I told the children that they can change it when they are 18. I don’t want to deal with their father on this, even though I have full legal and physical custody. The form requires his okay. I could get around it, but it would be costly and put us back in touch. No, thank you.

I hyphenated to match my children, whom I chose to give his last name as we were not married when DC1 was born. I should have listened to my parents. The line ends with my father, unless we go through with the change. So, that plays a role too

DD wants my maiden name. A friends child used her maiden name and didn’t legally change it until age 18. It was like Robert goes by Bobby and Larlo Smith goes by Larlo Jones

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Change it back. My DH’s ex wife still has his name and it’s extremely weird to me, especially now that he’s remarried.

Threatened much?

Er yeah... I kept my name, kids have my name, and if I had changed my name then I'd probably change it back in a divorce, depending on how the divorce went. My ex husband's new squeeze would have exactly zero impact on my decision though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was in your exact situation 3 years ago. I ended up changing back to my maiden name. There was no way I wanted to be tied to him. I am so glad I changed my name. It’s fine that my kids have a different last name. It’s been no problem at all.

Given the way my marriage ended I’m glad exDW reverted. She wasn’t worthy of keeping my family name.

Oh please. Give me a break on the "worthy: business.