Dealing with narcissistic MIL?

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Anonymous wrote:I am not sure what "going for Easter" means to you. Is it 3 nights or simple a ham dinner?

It’s a family dinner, a little more than an hour away. We stay for the whole day, typically.

You know you don't have to stay for a whole day.

How do you go to a family function where one of the people there just days before spewed falsities about you and basically told you you were the root of all that is bad in their life?

Just like that. Treat her like she is ill. It might be an early stage of dementia.

Remember: you are a woman. You have to put up with it. Women are always in the wrong. Amirite posters?

My advice, since I don't hate women, would be to not go.

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[Anonymous]

My Mom is a narcissist. I've started avoiding contact with her as have most of my relatives. It makes me sad but I understand everyone's reasons for wanting to stay away. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t go and wouldn’t allow my children to be around someone who thinks it’s ok to speak ill of me.

If DH still wants to go, I wouldn’t stand in his way.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t go and wouldn’t allow my children to be around someone who thinks it’s ok to speak ill of me.

If DH still wants to go, I wouldn’t stand in his way.

This is OP. My husband and I had decided we won’t be going. I’m just not even sure how I proceed with this relationship going forward.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t go and wouldn’t allow my children to be around someone who thinks it’s ok to speak ill of me.

If DH still wants to go, I wouldn’t stand in his way.

This is OP. My husband and I had decided we won’t be going. I’m just not even sure how I proceed with this relationship going forward.

NP.

Good for you OP. This is a healthy response and I wish you luck on moving forward. At least your DH is on your side.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t go and wouldn’t allow my children to be around someone who thinks it’s ok to speak ill of me.

If DH still wants to go, I wouldn’t stand in his way.

This is OP. My husband and I had decided we won’t be going. I’m just not even sure how I proceed with this relationship going forward.

I would try not to worry too much about the future at this moment. Let her figure out how to make this right, or not. Focus on yourself and your family.

I have a narcisstic Mom and we are no contact. But I didn’t decide that all at once. I kept hoping she’d change or reach out and she never did. It’s been 3 years and it’s less of a big deal with each passing day.

We also had some major drama with my MIL-she wrote a nasty email about me to DH and my brothers in law. We haven’t spoken to her since. I’ve told DH that if he really wants a relationship, we can figure something out (some kind of limited contact). He said she had to make things right herself. She never has. We haven’t seen her in over a year.

Our life is so much more peaceful and happy without the drama and negativity and hatred these people brought into our lives.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t go and wouldn’t allow my children to be around someone who thinks it’s ok to speak ill of me.

If DH still wants to go, I wouldn’t stand in his way.

This is OP. My husband and I had decided we won’t be going. I’m just not even sure how I proceed with this relationship going forward.

NP.

Good for you OP. This is a healthy response and I wish you luck on moving forward. At least your DH is on your side.

Yes! I’m very grateful for him, that he sees through the BS!