Should I Tell her?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t say anything directly. Not sure how long your female friend has been dating but she should assume unless they have agreed to be exclusive, the guy is sleeping with other people or he could go on a date to tomorrow, hit it off and sleep with the new girl. As long as she is not naive about online dating, I don’t see that there is anything to say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a female friend of two people who have just met. The man is 36, good career, and divorced. He hadn’t been with anyone sexually in about 5 years. The female friend is 31, good career, and doesn’t sleep around. They met online. He had been dating around for about 6 months now. He said he is really into her, but is still going on dates with other women. They have their second date tonight, but I just found out that he had “marathon” sex last night with another woman on a second date, whom he said he doesn’t really like that much. I know it’s none of my business, and I am closer to him than I am her, but I would want to know if a guy I was meeting for a date slept with someone else the night before. Even though it’s rhe second date, he went all out with planning for the date, so I don’t understand why he would sleep with someone he doesn’t see a future with, after saying he didn’t sleep with other before for that very reason. Should I say nothing?

Um, he's a man.

[Anonymous]

Get a life and stop being jealous. Is your real problem that he's not sleeping with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t say anything but the guy sounds like a douchebag.

He’s a douchebag because he slept with a woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a female friend of two people who have just met. The man is 36, good career, and divorced. He hadn’t been with anyone sexually in about 5 years. The female friend is 31, good career, and doesn’t sleep around. They met online. He had been dating around for about 6 months now. He said he is really into her, but is still going on dates with other women. They have their second date tonight, but I just found out that he had “marathon” sex last night with another woman on a second date, whom he said he doesn’t really like that much. I know it’s none of my business, and I am closer to him than I am her, but I would want to know if a guy I was meeting for a date slept with someone else the night before. Even though it’s rhe second date, he went all out with planning for the date, so I don’t understand why he would sleep with someone he doesn’t see a future with, after saying he didn’t sleep with other before for that very reason. Should I say nothing?

Absolutely not. It's none of your business who your date had sex with the night before or the morning of their SECOND date with you. Maybe he wants to have one last hurrah before getting serious with your friend? Who knows and it doesn't matter because he owes you no explanation. Just because you would have a problem with this doesn't mean everyone else would, so don't put her in an awkward position (cause it will be awkward for her that you know so much about your friend's sex life) and keep it to yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t say anything directly. Not sure how long your female friend has been dating but she should assume unless they have agreed to be exclusive, the guy is sleeping with other people or he could go on a date to tomorrow, hit it off and sleep with the new girl. As long as she is not naive about online dating, I don’t see that there is anything to say.

+1
Most adults realize this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t say anything but the guy sounds like a douchebag.

No, he just sounds like he's dating other people. No problem with that.

[Anonymous]

Just tell your female friend he's dating other people and let her decide based on that. If I was your friend I'd want to know.

[Anonymous]

If she is a friend to both, she may encourage him to communicate that he is dating other people, or maybe she already knows.

[Anonymous]

You know them both but they met online? Those are pretty steep odds.

MYOB. It’s fine to sleep with other people until there’s a commitment.

[Anonymous]

What?!?! They’ve been on two dates!! That’s nothing!! MYOB

[Anonymous]

STFU!!!

[Anonymous]

OP, if he's dating other people, then he's f*cking other people (marathon or quickie). Your girlfriend should already know that so MYOB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a female friend of two people who have just met. The man is 36, good career, and divorced. He hadn’t been with anyone sexually in about 5 years. The female friend is 31, good career, and doesn’t sleep around. They met online. He had been dating around for about 6 months now. He said he is really into her, but is still going on dates with other women. They have their second date tonight, but I just found out that he had “marathon” sex last night with another woman on a second date, whom he said he doesn’t really like that much. I know it’s none of my business, and I am closer to him than I am her, but I would want to know if a guy I was meeting for a date slept with someone else the night before. Even though it’s rhe second date, he went all out with planning for the date, so I don’t understand why he would sleep with someone he doesn’t see a future with, after saying he didn’t sleep with other before for that very reason. Should I say nothing?

No offense, but you seem pretty dim.

[Anonymous]

MYOB.