Tell me about your divorce timeline

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He told me he wanted to separate in February and moved out about a week later. We agreed he’d keep paying 1/2 the mortgage and 1/2 daycare.
In June he finally decided to tell me he was done (he hadn’t agreed to do counseling or anything and I found out later he’d been cheating on me before he left).
We started mediation in October (we both met with lawyers around that time). We did not have a contentious process at all, but it took multiple sessions, interrupted by the holidays, and then the lawyers reviewed everything and we had to negotiate some minir things. He filed in May and the divorce was granted in July.

What state? MD has a year-long separation requirement before filing ...

Right. We separated in February and were granted our divorce the following July. So 18 months from start to finish. This was in VA which also requires a year of separation with kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Year 1 - happy marriage
Year 2 - major issues
Year 3 - therapy and financial counselors
Year 4 - separation (6 months)
- separation agreement (2 months)
- divorce proceedings

other details: this is in DC, no kids, no attorneys

Year 2 = you stopped having sex with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Year 1 - happy marriage
Year 2 - major issues
Year 3 - therapy and financial counselors
Year 4 - separation (6 months)
- separation agreement (2 months)
- divorce proceedings

other details: this is in DC, no kids, no attorneys

Year 2 = you stopped having sex with him.

PP - No, but if I can expand my timeline.
Year 2 - major issues: he quit his job, read comic books all day, I became the sole breadwinner and still remained the cook and cleaner, he stopped having sex with me.
Year 3 - one day I came home to find that he had packed his bags and left!
Year 4 - he refused to come to the divorce proceedings, and kept begging me not to get a divorce
Year 5 - he tried to rekindle our relationship but I has already moved on
Year 6 - I met someone really great
Year 7 - we got married
Year 9 - beautiful baby boy
Year 11 - lovely baby girl
Year 12 - happily ever after????