Hit my son with my car - guilt

[Anonymous]

Come up with a strategy that helps you know this won't happen again. It seems your wife was also outside with your son. You might want to be sure the child is holding your hand / your wife's hand before driving if you are all outside.

[Anonymous]

Actually, after reading your posts, I'm not feeling guilty, because it was an accident. I think I just wanted some positive attention, so thanks for telling me it's ok

[Anonymous]

OP I’m so sorry. I cannot imagine what you are going through. Your baby is ok and you do have a second chance. The PP was right. Definitely see a therapist because this will bring a whole slew of emotions that will be hard to process.

It could have happened to anyone. Try to be gentle on yourself. Take action to fix what you can. Add a back up camera. Maybe make the garage off limits to the new walker for awhile. Or whatever safety measures seem appropriate. Taking action is something that can make you feel better.

[Anonymous]

This is when guilt has a purpose - to ensure that you will pay attention every time you back out of your garage so that you don't permanently maim or kill someone.

So please do feel anxiety, worry or guilt, or some feeling that will increase your alertness every time you get in your car.

I have a bad feeling, honestly, OP. You coming on here, the tone of your post, the update specifying that you don't feel guilty... I hope I'm wrong. But you don't seem worried enough, to be honest.

[Anonymous]

OP don't beat yourself up. Terrifying but your child is fine and will never remember. Please talk to your therapist asap and take care of yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope I'm wrong. But you don't seem worried enough, to be honest.

No, no, trust me, I'm ensuring this never happens again!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is when guilt has a purpose - to ensure that you will pay attention every time you back out of your garage so that you don't permanently maim or kill someone.

So please do feel anxiety, worry or guilt, or some feeling that will increase your alertness every time you get in your car.

I have a bad feeling, honestly, OP. You coming on here, the tone of your post, the update specifying that you don't feel guilty... I hope I'm wrong. But you don't seem worried enough, to be honest.

Ignore this OP. Stranger on a forum determining you don't feel guilty enough. PP whether or not OP feels guilt I guarantee you he will be alert every time he gets in his car for the rest of his life.

[Anonymous]

This almost happened to us. Our 3 years old was aquatting behind the car in the garage looking at the backup camera.

[Anonymous]

This is why backup cameras are now required on cars, because these sorts of accidents have happenned before. I'm glad your son is okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't feel guilt, feel gratitude for this amazing second chance you have.

Thank you

Yes this.

Also, this happened to my husbands family. I am not sure if the child lived. Since then we ALWAYS back into parking spots.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This almost happened to us. Our 3 years old was aquatting behind the car in the garage looking at the backup camera.

How does this almost happen? One parent should know where the child is at all times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This almost happened to us. Our 3 years old was aquatting behind the car in the garage looking at the backup camera.

How does this almost happen? One parent should know where the child is at all times.

Because they are quick!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is when guilt has a purpose - to ensure that you will pay attention every time you back out of your garage so that you don't permanently maim or kill someone.

So please do feel anxiety, worry or guilt, or some feeling that will increase your alertness every time you get in your car.

I have a bad feeling, honestly, OP. You coming on here, the tone of your post, the update specifying that you don't feel guilty... I hope I'm wrong. But you don't seem worried enough, to be honest.

Ignore this OP. Stranger on a forum determining you don't feel guilty enough. PP whether or not OP feels guilt I guarantee you he will be alert every time he gets in his car for the rest of his life.

I certainly hope so! But I'm not getting a good vibe from this post. If it were me, I wouldn't be posting on DCUM about it, saying I don't feel guilty and that it was an accident.
Most posters who responded to OP were clearly projecting their own emotions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This almost happened to us. Our 3 years old was aquatting behind the car in the garage looking at the backup camera.

How does this almost happen? One parent should know where the child is at all times.

Because they are quick!!

Not that quick. Its called supervising your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Come up with a strategy that helps you know this won't happen again. It seems your wife was also outside with your son. You might want to be sure the child is holding your hand / your wife's hand before driving if you are all outside.

+1. When I was a child a toddler in our neighborhood was run over, and killed, by a family member backing up.