Starter Marriage

[Anonymous]

My best friend is happily remarried. She may have rushed into her first marriage. She was in her early 30s. Thank goodness they did not have kids. They were great with all the good stuff like going out and having sex. Could not deal with adult married life.

[Anonymous]

If I had married the guy I dated from 18-23 (there was a lot of pressure for me to do so, especially from him, and it would've been SO easy to just give in), I would've been in your shoes. As it was, I managed to extricate myself and had a few happy single years dating and having fun with my best friends before meeting my husband and settling down. The best is yet to come, OP! You will be fine.

[Anonymous]

Should not be an issue. When you start dating, fairly early on you will need to mention it. Be prepared with a 30 second comment about it and leave it at that. Don't trash your ex or come across as vindictive.

[Anonymous]

Married at 19 (BIG mistake) 4 children in 7 years, divorced at 46. Then met the love of my life, also divorced. Now together for nearly 17 years, seems like yesterday we met!

[Anonymous]

I am you OP, although divorce not finalized yet. I am also nervous/anxious but just trying to remain positive.

Anonymous wrote:Should not be an issue. When you start dating, fairly early on you will need to mention it. Be prepared with a 30 second comment about it and leave it at that. Don't trash your ex or come across as vindictive.

I also have begun to wonder about this... how much is shared, etc. I know if I were dating someone who was divorced I'd probably want to know if there was infidelity or something like that. But maybe that's none of my business, or theirs.