Should I tell my mom her estranged brother died?

[Anonymous]

No. Stop interjecting yourself into your mom’s decision to cut these people off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. Stop interjecting yourself into your mom’s decision to cut these people off.

This exactly.

[Anonymous]

Mom sounds like horrible person for cutting off her kids from the family.

[Anonymous]

If she wants to know, she can find out just as easily as you can. I would probably tell, but that's just me. If you don't want to, you don't have to.

[Anonymous]

I would tell her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mom sounds like horrible person for cutting off her kids from the family.

A PP here. Well, my mom cut off her family because her cousin molested my little sister and they defended him. Do you think my mother was horrible also? We do not have the background here so it is awfully judgmental to call someone horrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mom sounds like horrible person for cutting off her kids from the family.

A PP here. Well, my mom cut off her family because her cousin molested my little sister and they defended him. Do you think my mother was horrible also? We do not have the background here so it is awfully judgmental to call someone horrible.

Well said and it is not easy to cut out family. It hurts but sometimes has to be done. Hats of to your mother pp and I hope your sister is doing better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mom sounds like horrible person for cutting off her kids from the family.

A PP here. Well, my mom cut off her family because her cousin molested my little sister and they defended him. Do you think my mother was horrible also? We do not have the background here so it is awfully judgmental to call someone horrible.

Well said and it is not easy to cut out family. It hurts but sometimes has to be done. Hats of to your mother pp and I hope your sister is doing better.

+1000. DH finally cut off his relationship with his older brother, who had bullied and criticized him at every opportunity since he was a toddler.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mom sounds like horrible person for cutting off her kids from the family.

You sound like a horrible person for being so judgmental. https://www.google.com/amp/amp.slate.com/articles/life/family/2013/02/abusive_parents_what_do_grown_children_owe_the_mothers_and_fathers_who_made.html

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Stop interjecting yourself into your mom’s decision to cut these people off.

This exactly.

OP did not interject herself before, so there is nothing to "stop".

[Anonymous]

I would mention it to her. Tell her that you were bored and doing searches on Facebook and found out that he died.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your mom may know or will find out on her own. What would be the point in telling her?

I feel sort of burdened by this info now. I doubt she even cares, but it just feels odd carrying this around. It would hurt her to tell her though. She’s always very hurt that none of them reach out to her. It’s a long story for a different thread.

Don't tell. What is there to be gained here? You would just be hurting your mother in order to unburden yourself. Keep this to yourself and learn from your mistake.

[Anonymous]

I kinda think if someone is estranged then they waive the right to be notified of family updates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your mom may know or will find out on her own. What would be the point in telling her?

And what if she doesn't find out til years from now? She should know.

[Anonymous]

I would ask your mom if you found out news about someone in the estranged family had died or was ill would she want you to tell her. She will probably say no and then your concerns are resolved. Or she says yes and you tell her.