MIL's love to own kid vs grandkid could be totatlly different?

[Anonymous]

OP, I understand why you're concerned and trying to understand. Ignore the crazies who are giving you a hard time.

Sadly, I think it happens a lot that a parent will have a favorite child, and will treat that child's children as favorites too.

My mother treated me badly, and my brother was her favorite. His kids are her favorite grandkids, and while she mellowed a little, she still picked out one of my kids to dislike and treat badly, as she'd treated me.

My husband's mom was extremely abusive to him and favored her other children. She doesn't want anything to do with our kids, even though they're her only grandchildren. She favors her niece's kids.

Give the grandparents a chance, but if they don't treat your kids well, limit their time with them. And understand that your husband has accepted how his parent is, and has lived with it his whole life.

Do NOT accept your parent's judgment and negative definition of you, though, if this is your dynamic. They have their own issues and it's not you that's the problem. You won't change their minds, but you can redefine yourself.

[Anonymous]

OP, many of the people responding have clearly never felt the sting of favoritism within a family or the strife that can be caused generation to generation because of it.

You need to separate yourself from MIL. As your child grows up and sees the difference in treatment of the cousins, it will hurt. Check your child out of this relationship now so that he does not suffer in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your DH a disappointment to your MIL? Is your child not as cute, smart and easy going as BILs? Does she not like you very much?

The problem could be that you, your DH, your child are not as deserving of this particular person's love. You cannot force people to like you.

You are crazy lol. All children are cute. And unless MIL is administering IQ tests I doubt she would know which child is matter.

OP I understand this just be frustrating to you but seriously would you really want someone who administered “some beatings” to any child (and your own husband at that!) to be close with your child? I wouldn’t.

NP. What you state is just not true. I'm not saying it justifies anything, or this MIL is justified in what she does, but you have to know that NOT all children are cute, and NOT everyone, even family, wants to be around them. If someone doesn't, it doesn't automatically mean something is wrong with them.