Do I try to reconnect with an old friend

[Anonymous]

I have to agree with the PP who says she is a "season" friend.

In nearly every wedding that I am close enough to know, the bride has at least one friend/sibling/bridesmaid that is jealous/sad/whatever that she is not also getting married. It's usually someone who has been dating their significant other for years, or is in a relationship that she knows isn't leading to marriage.

There is the possibility that she doesn't like your DH - but I think that is a terrible reason to ghost a friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How to you know she is engaged ? Are you looking at her Facebook page? Honestly, I would let it go because once someone ghosets you like this, they will do it again.

No, I ran into a mutual friend who asked me if I was going to the wedding.

[Anonymous]

Personally I would not ever want to be friends w/someone who would ghost me then later, give me a lame excuse.

To drop you like a hot potato just because is very selfish.

You obviously had invested a lot in this friendship and in return you got abandonment as a dividend.

I know you were once very close but it takes TWO people to carry on a successful friendship & the trust between you two has already been eradicated.
W/out trust as your solid foundation....well there is nothing to build a friendship on anymore.

So sorry.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm not being snarky, but is it possible something happened to cause her to ghost you? Did you put her down to mutual friends? Did you make trouble for her and thought she wouldn't know it was you? Something along these lines? If you didn't do anything, is there a BPD person in your life who might have stirred trouble between you and your friend? If none of these things, then don't worry about it. People change, life changes, and she's a season friend. I don't think there's any harm in reaching out to her with a simple note congratulating her on her engagement and wishing her well, but keep your expectations low.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm not being snarky, but is it possible something happened to cause her to ghost you? Did you put her down to mutual friends? Did you make trouble for her and thought she wouldn't know it was you? Something along these lines? If you didn't do anything, is there a BPD person in your life who might have stirred trouble between you and your friend? If none of these things, then don't worry about it. People change, life changes, and she's a season friend. I don't think there's any harm in reaching out to her with a simple note congratulating her on her engagement and wishing her well, but keep your expectations low. I think other PPs have really good reflections on friendship.