Siding with teen against parents

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[Post New]02/03/2018 11:17
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Anonymous
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[Post New]02/03/2018 11:28
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Anonymous
OP if you're able invite her to live with you. She needs somewhere to go.
[Post New]02/03/2018 11:43
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP if you're able invite her to live with you. She needs somewhere to go.


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[Post New]02/03/2018 11:45
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP if you're able invite her to live with you. She needs somewhere to go.


They moved away from all family two years ago to the other side of the country. They have all her ID and documents. I have told her that the day she turns 18, I will fly out and take her out do the house (likely with police escort) and will help her get documents and will bring her home with me if that is what she wants.

Her parents are very angry with me for a number of reasons and will not let me visit. They are furious she continues to speak to me (she calls alarmist daily while walking home from school or walking to work) but they won't take her phone away as she has to check in with them by text hourly and at other random times. She has gotten in a lot of trouble for continuing to call me but she has decided it is worth it.
[Post New]02/03/2018 13:00
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Anonymous
That is terrible, OP. I am so sorry you are going through this, and especially, this has been your niece's life. What is wrong with people. Thank you for being there for her. If you don't have kids yourself, I am going to suggest lining up someone (very competent) who will help you and your niece adjust to your life together and to help you navigate the situation, especially with college and young adulthood.
[Post New]02/03/2018 15:22
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP if you're able invite her to live with you. She needs somewhere to go.


They moved away from all family two years ago to the other side of the country. They have all her ID and documents. I have told her that the day she turns 18, I will fly out and take her out do the house (likely with police escort) and will help her get documents and will bring her home with me if that is what she wants.

Her parents are very angry with me for a number of reasons and will not let me visit. They are furious she continues to speak to me (she calls alarmist daily while walking home from school or walking to work) but they won't take her phone away as she has to check in with them by text hourly and at other random times. She has gotten in a lot of trouble for continuing to call me but she has decided it is worth it. [/quote

Which ID's and papers? These can be replaced. You can get copies of birth certificates etc. Once she's 18 she's an adult. Buy the plane tickets now. Wish you were my aunt.
[Post New]02/03/2018 15:36
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Anonymous
My niece is scapegoated by her father and stepmother, and her mother loves her but does not do any of the work of parenting, to the point that she lived with my parents for most of the post-divorce, pre-college years. I will never badmouth the adults in her life to her. I give her all the financial and emotional support I can, but I don't know what the future holds. I don't want her to feel divided loyalty.

She's a bright young woman. She knows her parents failed her in some big ways.
[Post New]02/03/2018 15:48
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Anonymous
You are setting her up to fail. Are you planning to support her and pay for college? Why not take her now if you have the rescue complex?
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