Is it ever possible to just start over a marriage?

[grace4ever]

I’m sorry for you are experiencing this situation. Even in the toughest parts of your marriage, there’s always hope. Counseling can be helpful to work through things like this. You and your husband are valuable and worth fighting for. Therapy can allow you to learn and promote communication and dialogue. Please let me tell you that there’s hope that maybe your husband can open up in your marriage. I encourage you to be open to the forgiveness. I know that it can sound very difficult to hear but forgiveness has a great impact in our lives. Forgiveness does not mean that he is doing right, does mean that you appreciate more the relationship that you have with him. Forgiveness is like building bridges in the relationship but no walls of resentments. Forgiveness is the first step to change and heal. Have you ever thought about it? Also I encourage you to discern if you and your husband can improve the relationship and see if both can solve the problems and motivate each other to forgive and start again. Get help from an objective party who is a position to help you that is a very good choice. Marriage is not made of two perfect persons but two imperfect persons that want to work together to build a family and never give up. I do not know if you whether believe in God but I will keep you in my prayers my friend. Keep us posted, Ok?

[Anonymous]

Went to EFT counseling during years 18-19. We are definitely on a different and better marrriage. Like 100% better. Truly deeply and tenderly in love after 25 years. I would not have said that for the first 20 years, honestly, but the last five have been a real shift.

Also: the empty nest helps ALOT. Truly a wonderful thing! (Don't tell the kids!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you've had some rough patches, it is ever possible to go back to the way things used to be? Or are things just doomed going forward?

I'm not talking cheating, but lots of fighting, angry words, possible separation, etc.

No one is causing you to fight except you. No one is causing to say angry words except you. Once you acknowledge your personal responsibility for your own behavior, the answer to tour question will be clear.

[grace4ever]

I’m sorry for you are experiencing this situation. Even in the toughest parts of your marriage, there’s always hope. Counseling can be helpful to work through things like this. You and your husband are valuable and worth fighting for. Therapy can allow you to learn and promote communication and dialogue. Please let me tell you that there’s hope that maybe your husband can open up in your marriage. I encourage you to be open to the forgiveness. I know that it can sound very difficult to hear but forgiveness has a great impact in our lives. Forgiveness does not mean that he is doing right, does mean that you appreciate more the relationship that you have with him. Forgiveness is like building bridges in the relationship but no walls of resentments. Forgiveness is the first step to change and heal. Have you ever thought about it? Also I encourage you to discern if you and your husband can improve the relationship and see if both can solve the problems and motivate each other to forgive and start again. Get help from an objective party who is a position to help you that is a very good choice. Marriage is made up of two imperfect persons that want to work together to build a family and never give up. I do not know if you whether believe in God but I will keep you in my prayers my friend. Keep us posted, Ok?