Jealous of friend
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Anonymous
Seriously. Dh and I made $150k hhi in our twenties. And saved and now it’s $250 in our thirties and it’s fine and we have a wonderful life. Yes we both work but we love what we do. And your friend went to grad school s presumably she had ambition and plans of her own before she met her husband. |
Anonymous
This. You’ll never be happy if you don’t learn to appreciate what you have, and the moment you’re in. Mist people don’t live like your friend, or even aspire to that. |
Anonymous
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Hey, at least you have a husband. I'm a single mom at 45 and have to do everything on my own. It gets lonely, and I have the pressure of running a household on one income instead of two. I have the pressure of being the only breadwinner. So I get a little jealous of my friends who are in the situation of your friend, but also a little jealous of those who aren't wealthy but have a partner in life.
You certainly make more than I did in my 20's, despite working very hard and having two useful degrees from very good schools. See how this works? kind of silly, right? Try to appreciate what you have. And maybe spend more time with friends who aren't living as large as your friend - most people are more like you than like her. |
Anonymous
| Why would you get a useless degree? I went to college so I could get a job that pays me well, not to waste 4 years |
Anonymous
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I call troll. Somebody posts this exact thing every couple months- friend married rich, has the perfect life, OP doesn't want to work but DH doesn't make enough.
If this is real- I have your friend's life and it's not that great. Boring as hell and your self-esteem takes a huge hit since you contribute absolutely nothing. So you stress yourself out going overboard in making sure you're the perfect mother, as hot as possible, and then freaking out when you hit your 30s and suddenly aren't conventionally attractive anymore and your kids don't need you as much. I finally took a job that pays a very small fraction of what my DH makes and while it has improved my own happiness by leaps and bounds, DH is resentful because I get to have a "fun" job while he has a job he hates. Sucks, but it's better than being depressed. Human beings are meant to work and contribute to society, not sit at home living a life of luxury. That just leads to depression. If you want money live within your means and look into investments. You don't need a high salary to make money. We have lots of friends who make much more from investing than from their jobs. |
Anonymous
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If you think your friend has a perfect life, you are a bad friend, OP. Be a better listener and ask your friend questions. Get your head out of your butt
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Anonymous
Amen, sister! |
Anonymous
SHe didn't get a useless degree if their income is 150s in their 20s... |
Anonymous
| OMG autism same poster again. Must have mental issues....she posts the same thing all the time. |
Anonymous
| I meant OMG the same, it autocorrected. |
Anonymous
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Before OP goes overboard with jealousy, recognize that OP's "friend" better stay REALLY HOT through the years. Like at least an 8.5 or so. On the one hand it would be a pain for friend's DH to divorce, particularly if he didn't set up a prenup. That would cost him a fortune.
On the other hand, his social market value has gone through the roof. He's no longer one of any number of ambitious guys with potential. He's now fulfilled that potential. He might have married DW's friend when she was say a 7 or so back about 10 years ago. Well now it sounds like he can reel in 9's fairly easily. Certainly if they're single Moms, but maybe even childless 20-somethings depending on how much they would tolerate an older partner to get the money that comes along. If the difference between OP's "friend" and the potential AP reaches 2, she's going to have serious problems. She better at a minimum be like that woman in the other thread who does yoga in the mornings and OrangeTheory in the afternoons. She better be very careful that she doesn't bring in "live-in help" that would be able to turn the DH's head. Yes, it's not fair that the friend's DW has to get HOTTER, especially after having kids and what that does to a woman's body. But life's not fair. If you're going to be the wife of a self-made loaded man, and you don't bring your own financial assets to the table, then you better bring other assets that outweigh the smoking hot 32-year old single Mom nurse (and former bikini model) who would just love your man's advice over drinks on how to set up a LLC for her private nursing efforts. Just sayin'. |
Anonymous
| Spoiled |
Anonymous
Yeah. Boo f'ng hoo. |
Anonymous
| Comparison is the thief of joy, OP. $150K HHI and a one bedroom in the suburbs? You guys should be swimming in money, even with loans. One of my best friends is raising 2 kids on about 80K (yes, in the DC area). They do just fine. |
Anonymous
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You think you know her whole life because of that? You didn't mention her health. You didn't mention her relationships with her parents. You didn't mention if she feels intellectually fulfilled.
From the outside my life looks really awesome. I have a gorgeous and successful husband, a really cool job that requires travel to a lot of interesting places, two easy-going, smart and cute kids. But I haven't talked to my mother since I was a teenager, and haven't talked to my father in over three years. In the last ten years I have had eight hospital stays (not including childbirth). I had a late term miscarriage. But hey, we have a condo in NYC, so our lives are perfect, right? You don't know everything. |