I love my husband, but I don't like him

[Anonymous]

Sounds a lot like my ex H although I don't recall him ever blaming the appliances for breaking down. He was, however, pessimistic and negative about 90% of everything and very unhappy. He truly did not understand why I was happy most of the time.

He was pretty much a good father so I waited until the last kid hit 18 and then I left him. I did suggest counseling but he said "I'm not going to change, are you?" So that was a no go.

The first year was rough (for him) but since then we have been friends and I have been much happier. He has worked through some of his issues too although turns out a lot of his bad attitude is just his personality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have been married for 22 years. The last 10-12 years have been hard. He has changed. I don't know why. He has so much anger. He is always negative. Complains about everything. Examples: A light bulb burns out, it's a "piece of shit lamp", The mailbox post is loose and needs to be fixed so it's tighter in the ground, "piece of shit cheap mailbox" A sink gets clogged, "cheap ass house". Then the blame starts, "why did you make me buy this house" "we never should have moved here" We BOTH agreed on this house, and the things that happen quite honestly are simple dumb things to fix. Nothing major.

No matter how much I talk to him about it, it never changes. How do you leave a marriage where you still have love for your spouse but you literally can't stand to be in the same room, let alone house with him?

I don't know what to do.

I totally understand. My ex was the same way and eventually I just started doing stuff with my girlfriends in order to get away from the negativity. I couldn't live with that every day. It really helped my sanity to spend time with positive people and have good conversations. I did talk with him about it but he never changed and I eventually couldn't live with it anymore. I also spent some time at the gym to burn off energy and stress at times. That helped a lot too. Keep hope.