Being in my 30s is boring

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel you. I'm 35. I think it's just that most people are boring.

I know some other parents that still like to go to concerts, get high, etc. They're out there, if not the norm.

Any tips for finding these people?

Ask your kids who the troublemakers are in their classes then find their parents and there ya go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel you. I'm 35. I think it's just that most people are boring.

I know some other parents that still like to go to concerts, get high, etc. They're out there, if not the norm.

Any tips for finding these people?

Ask your kids who the troublemakers are in their classes then find their parents and there ya go.

Hahahahaha. +1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It only gets worse.

Signed, 58-year old whose best year was 27.

Nonsense - it gets so much better with advanced age!!

[Anonymous]

It’s not your age. It’s you.

Instead of looking for more interesting people, why don’t YOU try becoming more interesting?

Find some hobbies. Make goals. Read books. Do crafts. Go lift weights. . .

Oh wait, you can’t because you made the choice to become a mom.

[Anonymous]

OP, I think you’re expecting too much. As moms, we have a lot of drudgery in our lives- things that don’t make for fascinating conversation. It’s just the phase of our lives we are in. And the last thing I want is for another mom to expect me to be her monkey and entertain her. Why don’t you take up a hobby, maybe a fitness one, and then read books or watch TV for entertainment? No one owes you entertainment, and you’re not likely to get it from other tired moms who wonder why you think they even have the energy to be fake. Okay? They aren’t wearing a mask. That thousand meter stare is EXHAUSTION. Now try out Orangetheory or Barre, and get a subscription to audible, so you can listen to books while you clean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you’re expecting too much. As moms, we have a lot of drudgery in our lives- things that don’t make for fascinating conversation. It’s just the phase of our lives we are in. And the last thing I want is for another mom to expect me to be her monkey and entertain her. Why don’t you take up a hobby, maybe a fitness one, and then read books or watch TV for entertainment? [b]No one owes you entertainment, [b]and you’re not likely to get it from other tired moms who wonder why you think they even have the energy to be fake. Okay? They aren’t wearing a mask. That thousand meter stare is EXHAUSTION. Now try out Orangetheory or Barre, and get a subscription to audible, so you can listen to books while you clean.

This is great.

[Anonymous]

Like my grandmother said, “only the stupid get bored.”

[Anonymous]

Being a parent will change your life but it doesn't mean that you have give up everything that you enjoy. Both dh and I have maintained hobbies from our pre-kid years somewhat. We still regularly get together with friends (individually and as a couple)/travel without kids.

Find things that you enjoy and figure out a way to make that happen.

[Anonymous]

The cool mommies hit the beer farms (often with kids in tow). They also like "exotic" chain restaurants like Cava for girls night out. According to FB and thanks to the movie, they also love to do Bad Moms Night at the movies, the beer farm, Cava.

I work, so my social circle is primarily comprised of my peers who are well-educated, driven, politically savvy women. We don't talk about our kids. We aren't fake. And since we work downtown, we have easy access to great bars and restaurants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The cool mommies hit the beer farms (often with kids in tow). They also like "exotic" chain restaurants like Cava for girls night out. According to FB and thanks to the movie, they also love to do Bad Moms Night at the movies, the beer farm, Cava.

I work, so my social circle is primarily comprised of my peers who are well-educated, driven, politically savvy women. We don't talk about our kids. We aren't fake. And since we work downtown, we have easy access to great bars and restaurants.

Mommies who bring their kids to wineries and beer farms drive me insane. I'm sorry, but alcohol-driven places should be adult venues. I don't want your precious, gifted Larla running amok while I'm trying to enjoy a nice wine tasting. Of course those mommies won't do anything because it's just "kids being kids" in what is essentially a bar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel you. I'm 35. I think it's just that most people are boring.

I know some other parents that still like to go to concerts, get high, etc. They're out there, if not the norm.

Any tips for finding these people?

Put yourself out there. Ask parents to hang out. Invite them over, even if for play dates at first. Play music, talk about your wild youth, offer them a drink even if it's 2pm, crack a joke when the clock strikes 4:20...

Be patient. Most parents of little kids are in ruts, but a lot want help getting out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 20s were a great time. I was starting an interesting career, was meeting new exciting friends, and went out all the times. As a mom in my 30s life is boring as fuck!!!!! I enjoy motherhood, but socializing outside of my kid seriously is lacking. Why are people with families so fucking boring?!?! I know it won't be like my 20s again, with late night drinking escapades, but isn't there some fun 30s equivalent that doesn't involve kid s or mommy talk. It also seems like everyone in this stage in life is wearing a mask. I'm so over the boring fake ness. Where are the fun people hiding?????

The only "fun parents" I know that fit what you described do a lot of activities with their individual friends, not together as a couple. While they do stuff together with the help of a sitter, usually one will watch the kids, the other will go out, and vice-versa. They go out more in their 40s than most of my friends in their 20s.

[Anonymous]

You are probably a boring person. Sounds like you have no hobbies. I have picked up all kinds of hobbies I have come to love since having kids. Also I am not trying to spend every weekend away from my small kids. YOU need to make your own life exciting. Maybe you need to find childless friends.

[Anonymous]

I’m accepting that I’m going to be boring for a couple of years. I? woh and choose to spend most time outside work with my toddler and husband and extended family. I also volunteer and go out (or stay in) with friends and we have profound non kid related conversations. But then again i was never one for concerts and much partying. I do miss the theater and opera but at 2 dd is ready for babysitters and we are making plans for next year.

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I think your experience is largely dependent on whether you work or not and where you live. I work in DC but live in the burbs. My husband and I switch off about every other week so the other one can have a night off. I do happy hours, dinners, art exhibits, plays, etc on a regular basis and more than half my friends don’t have kids. Unless someone asks I don’t drag on about motherhood and kiddie activities.

I am also an interesting person, which helps. I’m very well traveled, have worked all over the world and also enjoy friends from different races and cultures. If you are a mom who doesn’t work and lives in the suburbs, I feel for you. Those girls are boring. PP said it - they think Cava is a fun night out and they tell mind numbing stories in excruciating details about their kids. Poor souls.