I ran into a neighbor with someone who wasn't his wife

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I notice that women agonize over informing the DW but men couldn't give a shit. Kinda like a 'bros before hos' thing, and I wonder if it makes more sense to take their approach instead of worrying about someone else's marriage. You're not his keeper.

OP here. My husband does care as well. We know it's ultimately none of our business. I don't know what goes on behind closed doors in others' homes although I don't get the sense that his wife would be ok with this. I just was curious what the thought process is behind going to a restaurant 15 minutes from your house with your mistress, showing PDA and not worrying about getting caught by someone who knows you. Is he just past the point of giving a shit?

Your husband does not care. He’s just reacting the way he thinks he has to to appease you.

[Anonymous]

Unless I was friends with her, I wouldn't say anything directly. At least not immediately.

However, if I did find myself in conversation with her, I'd probably ask something that would strongly imply that I assumed their marriage was an open one. And then see if she sweeps it under the rug or acts surprised and asks me what I mean. So basically act like I'm MYOB but really letting her know in a nice way. And I'd be the shocked one, acting like of course I just assumed it was an open marriage since he was kissing a woman on the lips repeatedly in a restaurant, hope I didn't get anyone into trouble, etc.

But I would definitely want to know, and so I'd not feel good acting like everything was fine with her, just in case it's not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We were at a restaurant and I saw them but they didn't see me since we were sat in different rooms of the restaurant. They were talking closely and kissed a few times. Definitely not friendly/platonic kissing. I went to the bathroom before we left and ran into him as he came out of the men's room. He was friendly and told me he was there for a work function. WTF. I'm friendly with his wife but not good friends. Our kids play together in the neighborhood.

DH and I know it's none of our business but why would someone choose to be seen in public with their affair partner or whoever she is? Does he really just not give a shit? This was a restaurant 15 minutes from our neighborhood.

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its time for men to tell women to go f'ck themselves. The want men to make the first move yet criticize for the first move. women can go f'ck their sisters.

can't wait for real robots so we can tell women to go make their own money

Uh, okay buddy. Whatever you say. Does your mom have your dinner ready upstairs yet?

[Anonymous]

Man that's pretty awkward. I think I would mention it to hee

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless I was friends with her, I wouldn't say anything directly. At least not immediately.

However, if I did find myself in conversation with her, I'd probably ask something that would strongly imply that I assumed their marriage was an open one. And then see if she sweeps it under the rug or acts surprised and asks me what I mean. So basically act like I'm MYOB but really letting her know in a nice way. And I'd be the shocked one, acting like of course I just assumed it was an open marriage since he was kissing a woman on the lips repeatedly in a restaurant, hope I didn't get anyone into trouble, etc.

But I would definitely want to know, and so I'd not feel good acting like everything was fine with her, just in case it's not.

+10000.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous note. Here is why: He knows you know. Whenever she gets suspicious, he's going to think you told. So you might as well tell. (Also it's the right thing to do by the wife)

I say that because years ago, some married guy I worked with hit on me. I kept my mouth shut about it. Then he was up for partner and didn't make it. He decided it was because I told on him. I know this for a fact because LSS later on, we ended up in a very weird discussion where he told me his theory of why he didn't make partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless I was friends with her, I wouldn't say anything directly. At least not immediately.

However, if I did find myself in conversation with her, I'd probably ask something that would strongly imply that I assumed their marriage was an open one. And then see if she sweeps it under the rug or acts surprised and asks me what I mean. So basically act like I'm MYOB but really letting her know in a nice way. And I'd be the shocked one, acting like of course I just assumed it was an open marriage since he was kissing a woman on the lips repeatedly in a restaurant, hope I didn't get anyone into trouble, etc.

But I would definitely want to know, and so I'd not feel good acting like everything was fine with her, just in case it's not.

+10000.

This; same.

[Anonymous]

I would not say a word. Not your business. At all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not say a word. Not your business. At all.

This. Shocked at the amount of people who would say something. Totally not your place.

[Anonymous]

OP, is his wife a SAHM? If she is, that might explain why he's so emboldened cos he holds the purse strings.

[Anonymous]

Unless you consider her to be a close friend, MYOB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, is his wife a SAHM? If she is, that might explain why he's so emboldened cos he holds the purse strings.

This makes no sense. Everyone knows that SAHMs, who are cheated on, win a free early retirement, courtesy of their husband's alimony.

[Anonymous]

SAHMs are at a disadvantage cos alimony isn't what it used to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:SAHMs are at a disadvantage cos alimony isn't what it used to be.

If he makes good money, she will get child support, a ton of alimony, plus half of everything, including retirement accounts.

[Anonymous]

Stay out of it...