Naive SIL - Say Something?

[Anonymous]

Wall these things revolve around her looks. I don't think she is naive. Sounds like she places high importance on her looks.

[Anonymous]

ALL, not wall

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How did you find out about the modeling thing?

She told us about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is an adult woman in my family who I'm pretty sure is about to buy in to her 3rd or 4th MLM scheme. I said something once but she had obviously drank the koolaid. I keep my mouth shut now and say a lot of "uh-huh" "hmmmmm". And I obviously don't buy.

Whoa, SIL is in an MLM too! It's one of the older and more established ones, so she thinks that lends legitimacy. I've been supportive of her business. I'm a decade younger than BIL and SIL, and she started the "business" when I was a teenager so I wasn't aware of MLMs. She doesn't pressure me to buy products, so I'm mostly off the hook.

[Anonymous]

What does your brother think of this situation? Personally I think they are both old enough to manage their own affairs and I don't think she will appreciate you pointing out something which is probably a scam.

I would suggest staying out of it and let them make their own mistakes. I'm with some of the other posters, she's vain not naive.

[Anonymous]

If she asked your opinion, say you read an article that there are a lot of scams. And encourage her to follow her dreams but only with a reputable modeling agency.

[Anonymous]

Starting modeling at 40? That seems strange. I might say something about checking the reviews (like you would for any other business) once, just to clear your conscience.

[Anonymous]

Is your brother concerned too? What about SIL's siblings or parents?

[Anonymous]

She won't lose that much money. Probably a couple thousand, max.

[Anonymous]

not sure why you care so much? they will waste some money so what? clearly it means a lot to he. she seems to be an aging Beaty desperate for affirmation.

[Anonymous]

OP - instead of warning her that this is a scam, play into her vanity.

Tell her you're impressed and happy she was approached by a modeling agency (I mean, come on - having a SIL that's a model would be really cool) and if she wants to be a serious model, she should compare agencies so she is represented by the best. Someone like her shouldn't settle for an agency that doesn't have the right connections or takes a higher percentage of her pay. She should research the company and look at others too.

This would be a nicer way to tell her to research the scammers and maybe she'll figure it out on her own. She may not realize she's being scammed, but maybe she'll just think they are a shoddy company and set her sights on the more famous modeling companies (and not really get anywhere).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - instead of warning her that this is a scam, play into her vanity.

Tell her you're impressed and happy she was approached by a modeling agency (I mean, come on - having a SIL that's a model would be really cool) and if she wants to be a serious model, she should compare agencies so she is represented by the best. Someone like her shouldn't settle for an agency that doesn't have the right connections or takes a higher percentage of her pay. She should research the company and look at others too.

This would be a nicer way to tell her to research the scammers and maybe she'll figure it out on her own. She may not realize she's being scammed, but maybe she'll just think they are a shoddy company and set her sights on the more famous modeling companies (and not really get anywhere).

Yes, play into it and tell her you’ve read so many things from people who have been scammed by such realistic looking offers that you’d hate to see her waste her time and money on someone like that, on someone who wasn’t going to be able to deliver her the best opportunities. Tell her to be sure to negotiate with a few places to get the best leverage since it’s such a big commitment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - instead of warning her that this is a scam, play into her vanity.

Tell her you're impressed and happy she was approached by a modeling agency (I mean, come on - having a SIL that's a model would be really cool) and if she wants to be a serious model, she should compare agencies so she is represented by the best. Someone like her shouldn't settle for an agency that doesn't have the right connections or takes a higher percentage of her pay. She should research the company and look at others too.

This would be a nicer way to tell her to research the scammers and maybe she'll figure it out on her own. She may not realize she's being scammed, but maybe she'll just think they are a shoddy company and set her sights on the more famous modeling companies (and not really get anywhere).

NP but this is brilliant!

[Anonymous]

"oh, Larla, that was a scheme back when WE were in high school... back when we COULD have been models. Have fun but don't lose any money!!!" and change the topic.