The myth of sending your kid to selective private and BS in the hopes that admission to top

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:True story. I went to public school. I tutored my roommate from a top 3 BS through the math and science of our first year of a top 10 engineering school.

The thing was he had a 1550 SAT score back when that actually was crazy high. I was 200 points lower.

I spent my free time on the XC and track teams and trying to sleep at night in a crazy dorm.

He spent his free time drinking and napping while I was in class taking notes we both used.

I burned my candle at both ends but he was just going through the motions he had learned at BS.

The end of both semesters he stopped drinking and his grades went almost straight up.

I was just exhausted from all I was doing and didn't know how to change my priorities to school when it counted.

Our freshman years GPAs were 3.7 and 2.0. Guess which was which?

Cool story bro... What is your point?

NP-Oh Look! It's the DCUM police again!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:elite colleges will be easier. In actuality, colleges draw from this pool for the following: Full Pay, Legacy, URM, HOOK. MOST will have 3/4 of the aforementioned therefore killing a logo of birds with one stone. If you don't or won't have 3/4 of those criteria, not only shouldn't you send them there, you should also skip TJ and go right to a middle of the road public HS that offers either IB or AP. Have your kid graduate in top 5% of that class. Much easier path.

My dd went to one of these schools and is thriving at a SLAC. Yes she applied to some super reaches, but no one "expects" to get in so it was no surprise. It doesn't matter in the end, most kids end up where they are supposed to in the end. I don't disagree with your assertion on who actually gets in bc that was pretty much how it worked out at our HS, but that doesn't mean that for a minute we regret sending her there. Were there some sour grapes parents? Yes, there were, but they had the wrong motivations for sending their kid...

And how would anyone know where they were "supposed" to end up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:True story. I went to public school. I tutored my roommate from a top 3 BS through the math and science of our first year of a top 10 engineering school.

The thing was he had a 1550 SAT score back when that actually was crazy high. I was 200 points lower.

I spent my free time on the XC and track teams and trying to sleep at night in a crazy dorm.

He spent his free time drinking and napping while I was in class taking notes we both used.

I burned my candle at both ends but he was just going through the motions he had learned at BS.

The end of both semesters he stopped drinking and his grades went almost straight up.

I was just exhausted from all I was doing and didn't know how to change my priorities to school when it counted.

Our freshman years GPAs were 3.7 and 2.0. Guess which was which?

Cool story bro... What is your point?

Do you have comprehension issues? It's clear the point was that BS kids are a bunch of slackers who can prep for an SAT but can't function in college STEM classes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Frankly, the reason parents spend $40k/year for a top private school is the education they receive K-12, not future college admissions. And the students who do the best are "intellectual" in ways that run-of-the-mill public schools just don't even try to meet. The basic public school curriculum just doesn't come close to the humanities and social science at my DC's school.

No, frankly the reason parents chose to spend $40k for private is to make "connections" and separate their children from the unwashed masses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Frankly, the reason parents spend $40k/year for a top private school is the education they receive K-12, not future college admissions. And the students who do the best are "intellectual" in ways that run-of-the-mill public schools just don't even try to meet. The basic public school curriculum just doesn't come close to the humanities and social science at my DC's school.

No, frankly the reason parents chose to spend $40k for private is to make "connections" and separate their children from the unwashed masses.

Sigh. There is nothing anyone could say that would change your mind about this.

[Anonymous]

My DC and another classmate from the same private are in an advanced Chinese language program at an Ivy. DC says they are both so well prepared from their private school. Chinese program that they are helping other classmates. The students they are helping are from public AND private.

I wouldn't necessarily say one type of school is better or worse, and the majority of admitted college students are from public schools. All about preparation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Frankly, the reason parents spend $40k/year for a top private school is the education they receive K-12, not future college admissions. And the students who do the best are "intellectual" in ways that run-of-the-mill public schools just don't even try to meet. The basic public school curriculum just doesn't come close to the humanities and social science at my DC's school.

No, frankly the reason parents chose to spend $40k for private is to make "connections" and separate their children from the unwashed masses.

Sigh. There is nothing anyone could say that would change your mind about this.

I wouldn't waste my time or give the other PP a second thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Frankly, the reason parents spend $40k/year for a top private school is the education they receive K-12, not future college admissions. And the students who do the best are "intellectual" in ways that run-of-the-mill public schools just don't even try to meet. The basic public school curriculum just doesn't come close to the humanities and social science at my DC's school.

No, frankly the reason parents chose to spend $40k for private is to make "connections" and separate their children from the unwashed masses.

Does anyone else wonder if all of these DCUM posts about the entitlement of private school parents, the emphasis on full-pay, the hard lot in life of donut-hole families, and how public school magnets run rings around the Big 3 all come from the same person? Maybe they have some friends posting too, but the bitterness just reeks.

[Anonymous]

Private (or elite magnet) k-12 produces a more confident and polished, sophisticated kid.

Yeah, your kid might be top dog at their backwater public, but even if they grind into an elite college, they'll feel like an outsider lacking the social and cultural capital to REALLY thrive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Private (or elite magnet) k-12 produces a more confident and polished, sophisticated kid.

Yeah, your kid might be top dog at their backwater public, but even if they grind into an elite college, they'll feel like an outsider lacking the social and cultural capital to REALLY thrive.

Is this a serious post? If so, you are proving the point of a lot of posters here. Way to further embarrass the private school parents who are trying to defend their choices. You also seem like part of the problem. Ivies are pulling fewer and fewer kids from BS and Elite privates bc these kids (who are raised by people like you) are not adding to the culture of the campus, and often detracting. Did you know that they do a "post mortem" at the end of every completed school year? Yes, they assemble the heads of the houses/residence halls and have a meeting. Basically, tell us about our successes and failures. When that person say "Kathy is a joy to be around, so kind so funny etc…but Alison is a cancer to this dorm with her elitist/mean/non-inclusive attitude. They pull the files and see what HSs these kids come from. And they remember. Is it fair that the actions of prior students can affect future students? No, but if there is a pattern, you can bet they will slowly back away. Go ask a Chapin kid why Yale does not like them, it's THIS.

[Anonymous]

^^^You do know that other poster is 15, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Private (or elite magnet) k-12 produces a more confident and polished, sophisticated kid.

Yeah, your kid might be top dog at their backwater public, but even if they grind into an elite college, they'll feel like an outsider lacking the social and cultural capital to REALLY thrive.

I know a lot of weird tj grads - I wouldn’t call them “polished and sophisticated “

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Frankly, the reason parents spend $40k/year for a top private school is the education they receive K-12, not future college admissions. And the students who do the best are "intellectual" in ways that run-of-the-mill public schools just don't even try to meet. The basic public school curriculum just doesn't come close to the humanities and social science at my DC's school.

No, frankly the reason parents chose to spend $40k for private is to make "connections" and separate their children from the unwashed masses.

While I'm not paying anywhere near $40K a year, I'm sending my kids to private HS for a variety of reasons, the very least of which is to make connections and separate from the unwashed masses. But a top reason is the first face they see upon entering school every morning is not that of the school's resource officer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP do you actually have a QUESTION?

Oh, I have a question too! (Type A student waving hand here in the back of an advanced class in public or private school, whatever)

Did you take your ANGER disorder medication today?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Private (or elite magnet) k-12 produces a more confident and polished, sophisticated kid.

Yeah, your kid might be top dog at their backwater public, but even if they grind into an elite college, they'll feel like an outsider lacking the social and cultural capital to REALLY thrive.

Rubbish. You do realize that the majority of students at elites come from public high school, right?