Mil calling my toddler a Momma’s boy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, is he a mama's boy? My oldest certainly is. And he is an adult. He played football all the way through high school. He went to college across the country. He is a combat vet on his way back overseas for his third tour. And he is still very much a mama's boy.

I agree that making your older child feel bad is shitty. But there is nothing at all wrong with being a mama's boy.

Op here, I guess I consider it a negative thing to call my 2 year old that. He’s two and yes he’s attached to me. But I stay at home with him and besides the occasional visit to our parents he’s never left with anyone else.

So, confirmed. He is, in fact, a mama’s boy. She’s just calling it as she sees it. And it sounds like you have deeper issues with her and you’re making this the issue to take it out on her with, because you’re too chicken to confront her about anything else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If anything she says bothers you, use your words: "What you just said is inappropriate - don't say it again."
Done.

I cannot imagine treating my MIL this way, but then again, we had a loving relationship.

Some of you are so exhausting, including OP and her MIL. This is clearly some sort of weirdo power game with MIL, and it is the type of behavior that begs to be ignored. If you truly feel MIL is inappropriate, stop spending as much time with her. Why does every annoyance demand a confrontation or demand? Learn to tolerate other people.

[Anonymous]

So who exactly is behaving like a toddler in this tale?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, is he a mama's boy? My oldest certainly is. And he is an adult. He played football all the way through high school. He went to college across the country. He is a combat vet on his way back overseas for his third tour. And he is still very much a mama's boy.

I agree that making your older child feel bad is shitty. But there is nothing at all wrong with being a mama's boy.

Op here, I guess I consider it a negative thing to call my 2 year old that. He’s two and yes he’s attached to me. But I stay at home with him and besides the occasional visit to our parents he’s never left with anyone else.

So, confirmed. He is, in fact, a mama’s boy. She’s just calling it as she sees it. And it sounds like you have deeper issues with her and you’re making this the issue to take it out on her with, because you’re too chicken to confront her about anything else.

Sorry, how is this confirmed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If anything she says bothers you, use your words: "What you just said is inappropriate - don't say it again."
Done.

I cannot imagine treating my MIL this way, but then again, we had a loving relationship.

Some of you are so exhausting, including OP and her MIL. This is clearly some sort of weirdo power game with MIL, and it is the type of behavior that begs to be ignored. If you truly feel MIL is inappropriate, stop spending as much time with her. Why does every annoyance demand a confrontation or demand? Learn to tolerate other people.

Op here, my MIl and I get along fine outside of the few issues I mentioned here. I’m offended by the term “mama’s boy” I also don’t like the double standard she employs with my eldest son but even so I wouldn’t dream of going as far as not spending time with her because of it. I really wanted to hear from others if they felt it was an issue or non-issue. It seems like I’m the only person that thinks calling a 2 year old a mammas boy is an issue. Also I won’t speak for everyone else but every annoyance for me doesn’t demand a confrontation. The issue with my eldest has been going on for 7 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If anything she says bothers you, use your words: "What you just said is inappropriate - don't say it again."
Done.

I cannot imagine treating my MIL this way, but then again, we had a loving relationship.

Some of you are so exhausting, including OP and her MIL. This is clearly some sort of weirdo power game with MIL, and it is the type of behavior that begs to be ignored. If you truly feel MIL is inappropriate, stop spending as much time with her. Why does every annoyance demand a confrontation or demand? Learn to tolerate other people.

Op here, my MIl and I get along fine outside of the few issues I mentioned here. I’m offended by the term “mama’s boy” I also don’t like the double standard she employs with my eldest son but even so I wouldn’t dream of going as far as not spending time with her because of it. I really wanted to hear from others if they felt it was an issue or non-issue. It seems like I’m the only person that thinks calling a 2 year old a mammas boy is an issue. Also I won’t speak for everyone else but every annoyance for me doesn’t demand a confrontation. The issue with my eldest has been going on for 7 years.

And I’ve never once confronted her on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If anything she says bothers you, use your words: "What you just said is inappropriate - don't say it again."
Done.

I cannot imagine treating my MIL this way, but then again, we had a loving relationship.

Some of you are so exhausting, including OP and her MIL. This is clearly some sort of weirdo power game with MIL, and it is the type of behavior that begs to be ignored. If you truly feel MIL is inappropriate, stop spending as much time with her. Why does every annoyance demand a confrontation or demand? Learn to tolerate other people.

Op here, my MIl and I get along fine outside of the few issues I mentioned here. I’m offended by the term “mama’s boy” I also don’t like the double standard she employs with my eldest son but even so I wouldn’t dream of going as far as not spending time with her because of it. I really wanted to hear from others if they felt it was an issue or non-issue. It seems like I’m the only person that thinks calling a 2 year old a mammas boy is an issue. Also I won’t speak for everyone else but every annoyance for me doesn’t demand a confrontation. The issue with my eldest has been going on for 7 years.

14:18 here. I think it's an issue as did another poster. Check your reading comprehension.

[Anonymous]

It would be an issue for me. And I would handle it privately by saying something calmly not when kids or husband were around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, is he a mama's boy? My oldest certainly is. And he is an adult. He played football all the way through high school. He went to college across the country. He is a combat vet on his way back overseas for his third tour. And he is still very much a mama's boy.

I agree that making your older child feel bad is shitty. But there is nothing at all wrong with being a mama's boy.

Op here, I guess I consider it a negative thing to call my 2 year old that. He’s two and yes he’s attached to me. But I stay at home with him and besides the occasional visit to our parents he’s never left with anyone else.

So, confirmed. He is, in fact, a mama’s boy. She’s just calling it as she sees it. And it sounds like you have deeper issues with her and you’re making this the issue to take it out on her with, because you’re too chicken to confront her about anything else.

Sorry, how is this confirmed?

He’s attached to her. To the point where he basically wants no one else. He cries for her. He’s never left with anyone else and spends all day at home being smothered by mommy. Do you not get this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, is he a mama's boy? My oldest certainly is. And he is an adult. He played football all the way through high school. He went to college across the country. He is a combat vet on his way back overseas for his third tour. And he is still very much a mama's boy.

I agree that making your older child feel bad is shitty. But there is nothing at all wrong with being a mama's boy.

Op here, I guess I consider it a negative thing to call my 2 year old that. He’s two and yes he’s attached to me. But I stay at home with him and besides the occasional visit to our parents he’s never left with anyone else.

So, confirmed. He is, in fact, a mama’s boy. She’s just calling it as she sees it. And it sounds like you have deeper issues with her and you’re making this the issue to take it out on her with, because you’re too chicken to confront her about anything else.

Sorry, how is this confirmed?

He’s attached to her. To the point where he basically wants no one else. He cries for her. He’s never left with anyone else and spends all day at home being smothered by mommy. Do you not get this?

He's 2...its completely normal for him to be attached. "Mama's boy" may be accurate but its not nice and OP has the right to be annoyed. FWIW, my son is a total "mama's boy" as well, although nobody calls him that (that I'm aware of) and I am away from him 45 hours/week at work.