Is there a computer in your 10 year old's room? If not, where is their computer?

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Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not. The only computer is in the den where I can see what's going on, and that won't change even when I have teenagers. We also don't allow televisions in bedrooms.

Hopefully, when you mature with your kids and they actually become teens, you will look back on this post and feel a little embarrassed. For starters, teens don't watch TV unless their parents force them to.

Not at all. We have teens in our extended family following the same rules so it's not as if I don't know how teens are. Maybe different from your family's rules, but not unreasonable.

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we have a 7 & 11yr old. We have a really nice (and very powerful) AIO with a large monitor that sits in our home office. Everyone has their own login (face recognition) and when you login the screen and programs are customized to said person. So obviously there are different controls based on what user is on the computer.

My 11yr old has some games and does some computer programming that requires a powerful computer. That would be WAY too expensive to have for his exclusive use in his own bedroom, hence the big computer in the home office. He has an ipad with a keyboard he can use in his room and will do some basic homework on that. I have nothing against kids having computers in their room, but my kid won't each have $2500 computers in their bedroom.

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Anonymous wrote:In our office (I have an iMac and DH has a windows box and a Linux box). Or kids can use one of the three laptops. No need for a computer in either child’s room ever.

Office has glass French doors so it is not private but would keep a younger child out.

This to me is the ideal situation. Privacy but monitored.

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Anonymous wrote:Really bad to let kids have phone or computer in their room alone.

why? what is really bad about that?

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No. 11-year old uses the family laptop when needed. If he has to do a homework assignment he sometimes takes the laptop into his room to do the assignment at his desk, but otherwise he uses the laptop in the office or living room.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Really bad to let kids have phone or computer in their room alone.

why? what is really bad about that?

You really aren't aware that there's a ton of content on the internet that would be really inappropriate for a 10 year old to see and would be super easy for them to stumble on to?

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You can give your 10 year old some nice noise canceling headphones for Christmas and shoo the younger brother away while he is working on his programming and movie editing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Really bad to let kids have phone or computer in their room alone.

why? what is really bad about that?

Use your imagination.....

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We have parental controls on our computers, don't you?

My 10 year old will never have a computer or TV in their room. Phones downstairs at night (they dont have one yet).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have parental controls on our computers, don't you?

My 10 year old will never have a computer or TV in their room. Phones downstairs at night (they dont have one yet).

Just blacklist at the router

[Anonymous]

DH and I share an office. The laptop for the kids is in there. They have to ask permission to take it in their bedroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Really bad to let kids have phone or computer in their room alone.

why? what is really bad about that?

Use your imagination.....

Many parents of high schoolers have their children complete homework in a common room of the house. They claim to spend hours on homework for their parents to find out later they are watching Netflix, texting or playing video games while occasionally working on homework. I'm a teacher (on a lunch break) and this comes up all of the time during meetings.

My elementary aged children work on the laptop in the dining room if they have homework or if they want to use it for something fun.

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Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not. The only computer is in the den where I can see what's going on, and that won't change even when I have teenagers. We also don't allow televisions in bedrooms.

Hopefully, when you mature with your kids and they actually become teens, you will look back on this post and feel a little embarrassed. For starters, teens don't watch TV unless their parents force them to.

Huh? My 13 yo and her friends binge watch Netflix. Sometimes on their phones while they're siting next to each other.
No screentime in bedrooms. At 9 pm the screens go dark (OurPact app) so even if they have them in their rooms they can only access the phone and alarm clock. They never use the phone. That's one thing we have to force! A phone call!

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No screens in bedroom, period. It's easier to set the rules early.

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Ten year old has laptop in his room. I also have software that gives me a weekly roll up of everything he’s done, and can drill down. I know what he is doing and who he is doing it with. He’s not secretive about what he’s doing, so I am not monitoring every day. If his behavior was to change (getting secretive or quietJ when he’s on his computer, then I would start reviewing daily.
I’m a cyber security person by trade.