Husband doesn't say good-bye - this is weird, right?

[Anonymous]

He does say please and thank you.

The room thing is less annoying because normally you see when people leave the room. However, we have this one room where the doorway can't be seen from the couch and he'll stop in the doorway and say a few words but when I respond I'll notice he's not there anymore. Or, the office is set up so your back is to the door and he'll stop and talk, then leave so I'm responding to air. But yes, that is not a big deal and I probably wouldn't even notice except for the other stuff.

And, not that it matters, but I have a bad habit of forgetting things so I leave my purse in the car (it's in the garage) every day so I don't forget it. I need many routines to not forget things and that's one of them.

[Anonymous]

In general yes, it's kinda weird, but in your case is not since he's always done it, I think the "key plan" can work well as long as he's willing to play the game for your benefit, shouldn't be too much to ask no?

[Anonymous]

Incredibly rude.

[Anonymous]

Yes, weird. DH usually doesn't say anything when he's leaving a room for a few minutes (to put laundry away, to get a drink, etc.) but if he's not coming back he will. "I'm going to take a shower/get some work done/prep lunches." When he does the latter, he usually also kisses me.

I tend not to say anything when I leave the room, but definitely do when leaving the house, even if it's just to walk the dog.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He does say please and thank you.

The room thing is less annoying because normally you see when people leave the room. However, we have this one room where the doorway can't be seen from the couch and he'll stop in the doorway and say a few words but when I respond I'll notice he's not there anymore. Or, the office is set up so your back is to the door and he'll stop and talk, then leave so I'm responding to air. But yes, that is not a big deal and I probably wouldn't even notice except for the other stuff.

And, not that it matters, but I have a bad habit of forgetting things so I leave my purse in the car (it's in the garage) every day so I don't forget it. I need many routines to not forget things and that's one of them.

so your bad habits are fine, but your husband's are cause for world war 3.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You want him to say something when he leaves the room?

I think you are probably as crazy about good byes as he is lacking.

If I say I am going to a target this am and my H is mowing the lawn I don't go out to talk him I just leave.

OP wants him to say something when he leaves the house, not the room. Most people let their spouse know when they are leaving the house.

Nope. OP is in fact complaining about the room thing as well.

[Anonymous]

He did tell you he was going.
This morning he was going to Target at noon.

If I told my spouse in the morning I'm going to XYZ at a specific time I would not say. " Spouse, it's now noon i'm going grocery shopping."

As for your pure OP that's on you. You chose to leave it in the car. You then chose to ignore his earlier message to you about when he was leaving and left your purse there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He does say please and thank you.

The room thing is less annoying because normally you see when people leave the room. However, we have this one room where the doorway can't be seen from the couch and he'll stop in the doorway and say a few words but when I respond I'll notice he's not there anymore. Or, the office is set up so your back is to the door and he'll stop and talk, then leave so I'm responding to air. But yes, that is not a big deal and I probably wouldn't even notice except for the other stuff.

And, not that it matters, but I have a bad habit of forgetting things so I leave my purse in the car (it's in the garage) every day so I don't forget it. I need many routines to not forget things and that's one of them.

Do you have ADHD?

[Anonymous]

My initial reaction is "weird" too.

BUT: when he says he's leaving, does you just say "OK bye", or does it turn into a huge production of "wait--let me make a list of what I want / wait--maybe I should go with you but I'm not ready / wait--maybe the kids should go too"?

Some people in my family turn every departure into productions, and so some of us have taken to just slinking out.

Oh and it's a BAD idea to leave your purse in the car.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hangs up the phone without saying goodbye, sometimes I have to call back because he didn't realize I had something else to say. Leaves rooms without saying anything, but the worst is that he will leave the house to run errands without saying anything! He'll say - I told you this morning I needed to go to target. Ok, but you didn't tell me when you were walking out the door! He is always going someplace I want him to go (I hate running errands) but I don't figure out he left until I try to find him and the car is gone. So irritating! This time my purse was in the car he took so I had no way to pay the guy who was repairing something at the house, so it was a real inconvenience, but even without that, I think it's so rude.

The start of so many pornos.

[Anonymous]

the worst is that he will leave the house to run errands without saying anything!

He needs more space from you. The freedom to come and go and not be accountable to you is pretty minor, and basic

[Anonymous]

My guess is Op talks a lot

[Anonymous]

My husband started doing the thing with the phone where he doesn't say good bye a couple of years ago and I said something to him about it. He still will hang up without staying good bye and I find it very annoying because I'm not sure if he's hung up or not. Is this a thing now?

He should tell you if he's leaving the house, though. We always do that.

[Anonymous]

They do this all the time in shows and movies. I mean a cell phone is more like a walkie talkie now when people have things to do. My ex would say i love you after finishing talking to me everytime until i found he waa cheating then i hung up without saying anything to his rude ass.

[Anonymous]

1) hanging up the phone without saying bye or I love you is rude and disconcerting.
2) leaving the house without telling you is inconsiderate. We don't let our kids leave without telling us where they are going At the very least, I hear "I'm going out! I'll be back! from the kids." An adult should be better able to say, "I'm going to Home Depot, I'll be back in an hour or so."

That said, my DH does sometimes leave without telling me or the kids, and it is hypocritical and annoying. But I do let him know, he apologizes and pretends he's sorry, but he doesn't actually get it. But he does comply and let us know where he is going most of the time.