Did having a child with SN influence your decision whether to have more kids?

[Anonymous]

No. I had my SN child first and though he never slept and was otherwise pretty impossible I loved him intensely.

I had my DD just 18 months after I had DS. They grew up together and her presence really helped him. He was SO excited to have a baby sister from the first sight of her and they played together nonstop for years.
She eventually emotionally outgrew him (he is severely disabled) but their childhood together was really fun.

It's really not possible to predict this stuff though. I've known other siblings who didn't get along - though those siblings were further apart in age (5 years maybe?).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I had my SN child first and though he never slept and was otherwise pretty impossible I loved him intensely.

I had my DD just 18 months after I had DS. They grew up together and her presence really helped him. He was SO excited to have a baby sister from the first sight of her and they played together nonstop for years.
She eventually emotionally outgrew him (he is severely disabled) but their childhood together was really fun.

It's really not possible to predict this stuff though. I've known other siblings who didn't get along - though those siblings were further apart in age (5 years maybe?).

Oh, DD (child #2) is very bright and typical - though she's a teen now and 'typical' means difficult, whereas SN DS teen years means 'really fun and easy going' - who would have thought ?

[Anonymous]

I have 2 and DC 1 has SN. Was pregnant when we learned the extend of DC1's issues.

Had I known sooner, I would have stopped at one. Emotionally, financially it has been hard. I wouldn't knowingly risk it a third time.

[Anonymous]

For me yes -- it just seemed too much for our emotional and financial resources.

This seemed prudent and in our case -- SNs related to a unique medical condition -- we've found scant public resources (and indeed ongoing war with insurance carriers) to address things. Sometimes this doesn't seem like a friendly country for kids!