Was I wrong in this situation with my "friend"?

[Anonymous]

Why would you even care about this relationship. Cut her loose.

[Anonymous]

She has a bacterial infection and doesn't "want to take antibiotics?" Huh?? If she had strep she would have felt better and not been contagious in 24 hours.

And why doesn't she want to get better? B.c then she would have think of something else to be drama about and get attention and OH POOR YOU on social media.

Barf. Ain't nobody got time for that. Dump the Drama Llama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Tough love from me:

You are very silly indeed, OP, for continuing a relationship with this insane person. Your first experience with her extreme self-centeredness should have been the only red flag you needed.

If she ever tries to reconnect with you, please do not respond.

I concur. People like this are not worth your time.

[Anonymous]

Op - you still don't get it. You can't find a reasonable explanation when dealing with an unreasonable person.

This is not situation-specific. The details do not matter. You also have problems if you do not see this - - so learn

[Anonymous]

Also disagree about the supposed grudge you're holding. I don't get that at all from your post. If it's wrong to advocate for an immune-compromised infant, I would not care about being right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I suspect you have enough friends that you can let this one go. She sounds crazy and self-involved.

OP, she is single and no kids. She has only herself to care about. She probably cannot believe that you would put your child before her. She does not understand why her being sick/contagious would be any big deal. Like I said, she has never had to care for anyone except herself. She does not get it. I would just drop the friendship (there isn't really a friendship anyway).

This is terribly unfair. When I was single, I would never visit a friend if I were sick with strep or anything contagious. You don't need children to know that no one wants to catch your bugs.

[Anonymous]

She sounds selfish. Thank your lucky stars that she is not coming. Also, it wouldn't only be a "pain" if your little one got sick; in addition to the nuance of holding down the fort with a sick nursing child, there is the actual vulnerability your battling with the sickness threatening their health too. I would not care if I never heard from her again.

[Anonymous]

OP I had one of these frienemies. I finally decided to cut her out of my life when she said some snarky or mean stuff in front of my kids, who were getting old enough to understand it. I thought, "I don't want to model toxic female friendships to my kids" and "I don't want to model being a doormat to my kids."

So it's going to either be now, or later, OP. Opt for now. But if you chicken out, I will tell you that the only benefit of doing it later is you "get" to explain to your kids why Larla is no longer your friend. That's not fun but it does teach them a lesson about that it's not just about *being* a good friend, but that you also need to know how to *choose* good friends. Good friends are a two-ways street.

Ok OP enough with this situation; go choose some better friends.

[mmmb]

You were not wrong. As Mom, you did or thought the right thing, putting your child first. Since she has no children, she shouldn’t be expected to know what unconditional love is. But having said that, she is old enough now, to be able to understand your need to put your child first. Hopefully, she’ll come around as she’s done in the past. Take care!

[Anonymous]

mmmb wrote:You were not wrong. As Mom, you did or thought the right thing, putting your child first. Since she has no children, she shouldn’t be expected to know what unconditional love is. But having said that, she is old enough now, to be able to understand your need to put your child first. Hopefully, she’ll come around as she’s done in the past. Take care!

Off-topic, but you have got to be kidding me!! Only parents can understand unconditional love?? Unbelievable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

mmmb wrote:You were not wrong. As Mom, you did or thought the right thing, putting your child first. Since she has no children, she shouldn’t be expected to know what unconditional love is. But having said that, she is old enough now, to be able to understand your need to put your child first. Hopefully, she’ll come around as she’s done in the past. Take care!

Off-topic, but you have got to be kidding me!! Only parents can understand unconditional love?? Unbelievable.

[b]

Didn't you know? Until you spread your legs and push out a kid life hasn't begun and has no meaning!!!

- Single and 39. Been to 124 countries and don't want kids, but keep feeling 'sorry' for me and how I just don't understand.

[Anonymous]

You were wrong for letting back into her life after what happened at the resort.
She's always been the same person. You can't allow that crap in your life. Good luck op

[Anonymous]

This "friend" will probably text you in a couple months, asking if you've ever heard of LuLuRoe/ Beach Body/ Herbalife. Do yourself a favor and cut your losses before that happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

mmmb wrote:You were not wrong. As Mom, you did or thought the right thing, putting your child first. Since she has no children, she shouldn’t be expected to know what unconditional love is. But having said that, she is old enough now, to be able to understand your need to put your child first. Hopefully, she’ll come around as she’s done in the past. Take care!

Off-topic, but you have got to be kidding me!! Only parents can understand unconditional love?? Unbelievable.

Yeah I have no kids, but was a kid so I understand how many parents feel about me.

[Anonymous]

She is not your “friend” OP.

She is a very self-absorbed + inconsiderate person who thinks it is okay to treat others like dirt if they happen to do something that she doesn’t like.

I say never speak to her again.
She brings nothing good into your life.
In fact she sounds toxic.

If she tries to reach out later on, ignore her.

You had every right to not want to expose your child to illness.
What Mother wouldn’t??!