would you date someone who does this for a living?

[Anonymous]

I would want a family and a fairly conventional lifestyle, so I'd say he would not be a good potential partner for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Making a living that way doesn't bother me, if he's truly making a living. However, as a self-employed person, how does he handle health insurance, etc.? What would make me question dating him would be living with his mom at age 30 and having a house full of crap as opposed to a garage or storage space set up for his business.

They don't own a garage and he can't drive, so he doesn't have a storage space. he never learned how to drive and doesn't seem to want to.

Wow, NP here and nope nope nope, I would stay so far away from this mess, you'd think I'd have a restraining order out against me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was the first poster, but how old are you OP? Are you even in what you bring to the relationship or are you much further ahead? Either way still no, but you seem like you like him. Are you worried about scarcity? Do you have low self esteem?

I'm 28. I'm working on my master's degree. He seemed nice at first. I didn't know about the details I've posted til just this weekend. I don't like what I've learned. I'm trying not to be judgemental but I don't like how he makes his living and I can't figure out if I'm being snobby or what.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he can't take care of himself. He can't drive, lives with his mother. Does he pay taxes ? Have retirement savings? Health insurance? Op please answer these questions because my response depends on them .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he can't take care of himself. He can't drive, lives with his mother. Does he pay taxes ? Have retirement savings? Health insurance? Op please answer these questions because my response depends on them .

I don't know because I met him on a dating site and I really haven't asked him questions like that yet. I've only known him 3 months.

[Anonymous]

So, on the surface, it seems like a big, fat, no. But is he the type who is doing this just to get by? Or is he the type who has an entrepreneurial mindset and is willing to create a business / take risks. Because I could see this "profession" going either way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he can't take care of himself. He can't drive, lives with his mother. Does he pay taxes ? Have retirement savings? Health insurance? Op please answer these questions because my response depends on them .

I don't know because I met him on a dating site and I really haven't asked him questions like that yet. I've only known him 3 months.

You should ask him these questions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, on the surface, it seems like a big, fat, no. But is he the type who is doing this just to get by? Or is he the type who has an entrepreneurial mindset and is willing to create a business / take risks. Because I could see this "profession" going either way.

Just to get by and for pocket money. He has no rent to pay, his mom buys the groceries, does his laundry, etc. I think his only bill is his cell phone bill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was the first poster, but how old are you OP? Are you even in what you bring to the relationship or are you much further ahead? Either way still no, but you seem like you like him. Are you worried about scarcity? Do you have low self esteem?

I'm 28. I'm working on my master's degree. He seemed nice at first. I didn't know about the details I've posted til just this weekend. I don't like what I've learned. I'm trying not to be judgemental but I don't like how he makes his living and I can't figure out if I'm being snobby or what.

I'm dating too so I get what you mean when they seem nice or you click at first. The guy I was recently talking with was four years younger than me, but has nothing other than a decent job. I own my house and car free and clear and have a large amount of other assets that I've worked hard for. So it didn't work. You sound dedicated and career and future minded and he's not like that. It's not snobby to spot that for what it is. So continue not judging him for what works for him, but as it doesn't mesh with your path, move on.

[Anonymous]

LOL. Jeff Bezos started Amazon.com by selling books from his garage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, on the surface, it seems like a big, fat, no. But is he the type who is doing this just to get by? Or is he the type who has an entrepreneurial mindset and is willing to create a business / take risks. Because I could see this "profession" going either way.

Just to get by and for pocket money. He has no rent to pay, his mom buys the groceries, does his laundry, etc. I think his only bill is his cell phone bill.

I think the bigger problem is that he still expects his mother to take care of him as if he were a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL. Jeff Bezos started Amazon.com by selling books from his garage.

His garage or his mother's garage? That would make a difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL. Jeff Bezos started Amazon.com by selling books from his garage.

Yeah, this guy is so obviously a future billionaire. Go ahead and toss that lottery ticket in the trash can, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL. Jeff Bezos started Amazon.com by selling books from his garage.

He wasn't getting the books from garage sales and dumpsters and selling them on eBay.

[Anonymous]

The 'job' itself wouldn't bother me quite as much as living with his mother, he is a hoarder, and can't drive only because he hasn't felt like learning. He sounds like a middle school kid with a hobby, not an adult. If he made a ton of money and lived in a nice, clean place, and had a college degree to fall back on and could buy his own health insurance, sure. But no way would I date someone with all the details you described.