my grandma passed away and I feel like I never knew her

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Anonymous wrote:Well I did inherit some money. Just nothing in comparison to what my dad got. That's not really the point of my post though. I feel like her whole life, my grandma acted one way but that really wasn't the true story. She would even press on about needing to be frugal and not going out to eat, watching your spending, etc. But it was nothing for her to go into Neiman Marcus and drop 2000+ on a handbag and that was in the 80s and 90s! (I know this now, but didn't all of her life).

I'm adopted. My sister (my dad's biological daughter) had her college education paid for at an expensive private uni, had cars bought for her, etc. I didn't get any of that, assuming because I'm adopted. I was always close to my grandma, at least I thought I was. Now I just feel like she was someone I didn't really know.

If you spend your life comparing it to what other people get you will never be happy. I paid for my associates degree. I worked full time AND part time for five years to do that. Other people's parents paid for their college education. I go on a small vacation every 4-6 years. Other people's parents take them to Europe. I will probably never be able to afford Europe. I make peace with my life. Fancy things are not for everyone. And ps - some of the things for rich people are really ugly! LV bags? I think they're ugly. If someone gave me one, I'd sell it and use the money to pay for food for a few/several weeks. But more importantly, I don't compare. I keep my eyes on my goals.