Tell me where he is in the pecking order

[Anonymous]

MYbe he enjoys his job.
Maybe he's trying to improve his position.
Maybe he sucks at his job and needs more time than other people to do it.
Maybe he's lying about how often he works.
Maybe you shouldn't go out with him if all you care about is his job.

[Anonymous]

He's at the bottom of the pecking order, not even on the map. He will make you poor and miserable. Do him a great favor and cut off all communications. Troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ you aren't marrying him. Go on the first date and just see what happens. Are you seriously going to not go out with him at all based on what you googled?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A staff attorney is non partner track, lower than an associate. Usually.

Ok. Thx. But then why would he still work crazy hours? I could understand it if you were 25 and trying to prove yourself. But he has to be beyond that by now. If he really just loves what he does, that's great, but I'm not interested in dating a workaholic. I guess time will tell if he doesn't cancel the date due to work.

Not sure, could just be busy work and 70 hours a week of paralegal like stuff.

that said, the only way you'll know his background or what he actually does is to go on the first date and ask.

Did he get a JD, decent school, work at a bigger firm first?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a first date coming up. I googled him. He is an attorney with a small firm and he graduated in 98. He is listed as a staff attorney. I'm not in the legal field and know nothing about legal hierarchy. Other people are listed as Sr. Staff attorney, Associate, Of Counsel, and Partner. Where does he fall in the pecking order?

How old are you? He is over 40, are you a divorcee?

I'm 45 and divorced. Just so we're clear, everything I know about the legal profession I learned from DCUM. Until I started reading this site, I had never heard the term Biglaw.

You need to date people on your playing field meaning 90 year old dying men

[Anonymous]

Just go on the date and see what happens. It's just a date not a marriage ceremony.

[Anonymous]

Staff attorney is on the bottom of the totem poll, out of all those positions you listed. It also means they are the first to go when the firm is in financial trouble. Him being busy doesn't necessarily mean he's always busy at his job, it might just mean a deal/litigation/settlement is coming to an end. Instead of going on a first date, you come onto here and ask about his job.

[Anonymous]

Why waste your time? I guess you could get a meal or two out of him while you look for a real person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A staff attorney is non partner track, lower than an associate. Usually.

Ok. Thx. But then why would he still work crazy hours? I could understand it if you were 25 and trying to prove yourself. But he has to be beyond that by now. If he really just loves what he does, that's great, but I'm not interested in dating a workaholic. I guess time will tell if he doesn't cancel the date due to work.

Staff attorneys often get overtime. He may be working a lot because (1) he has to or he loses his job because he is expected to work overtime as necessary; or (2) he seeks out the overtime because he likes the extra money.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are absolutely putting the cart before the horse. I get googling someone before a date. Its 2017. Thats normal. But you are already wondering whether he will cancel your date because of work?

[Anonymous]

I'm guessing he's not a workaholic, he's just low-level and told to work that much. If he's still a staff attorney this far into his career, his situation is not likely to change anytime soon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You may be able to use him to get to a partner. You know trade up. It is very common for women in this area.

Not if she's 45.

[Anonymous]

Someone is playing the "Lawyer Lottery".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a first date coming up. I googled him. He is an attorney with a small firm and he graduated in 98. He is listed as a staff attorney. I'm not in the legal field and know nothing about legal hierarchy. Other people are listed as Sr. Staff attorney, Associate, Of Counsel, and Partner. Where does he fall in the pecking order?

Do him a favor and waste someone else's time.