Cost of Gestational Carrier

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone opted to use a GC even if it wasn't 100% necessary, but to avoid a potential medical complication that might leave you in severe pain during pregnancy with no good treatment options? No way 2 know ahead of time....

Most RE's won't let you use a GC unless it is medically necessary. Obviously there seem to be some cases of celebrities and very wealthy people where they may be able to pay to do it anyway ... but we had to get medical statements basically saying I would likely die and never carry a live baby to term due to underlying medical condition (and this was after having a stillbirth and I did have to go through serious heroic actions to save my life). Nearly everyone else I know who has gone this through has some serious underlying illness or had been through cancer treatment or has some inability to physically be able to carry a baby.

Is this typical? Have others experienced this too? Also considering a "not 100% necessary" GC but would be useful to know if this is totally off the table.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone opted to use a GC even if it wasn't 100% necessary, but to avoid a potential medical complication that might leave you in severe pain during pregnancy with no good treatment options? No way 2 know ahead of time....

Most RE's won't let you use a GC unless it is medically necessary. Obviously there seem to be some cases of celebrities and very wealthy people where they may be able to pay to do it anyway ... but we had to get medical statements basically saying I would likely die and never carry a live baby to term due to underlying medical condition (and this was after having a stillbirth and I did have to go through serious heroic actions to save my life). Nearly everyone else I know who has gone this through has some serious underlying illness or had been through cancer treatment or has some inability to physically be able to carry a baby.

Is this typical? Have others experienced this too? Also considering a "not 100% necessary" GC but would be useful to know if this is totally off the table.

Probably has to do with insurance. If everything is out of pocket I don't see why you need to document that you might die unless you use GC.

[Anonymous]

Your own insurance will not cover ANY surrogacy expenses, meaning meds, surrogates doctor visits, etc. so it shouldn’t matter WHY you need a surrogate because either you will be paying for everything and/or your surrogates health insurance, if it doesn’t specifically exclude surrogacy, will cover her at least health insurance expenses for the pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is not something I would do with a family member unless you do it the way you would with someone you found through an agency.

Yeah, you might actually have to treat your cousin like a human being instead of a paid incubator. Surrogacy should be illegal, as it is in almost every other civilized country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not something I would do with a family member unless you do it the way you would with someone you found through an agency.

Yeah, you might actually have to treat your cousin like a human being instead of a paid incubator. Surrogacy should be illegal, as it is in almost every other civilized country.

Wow. What a mean thing to say on an infertility support board. Some people aren't able to carry a child (i.e. gay couples) so they should not be able to have children?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not something I would do with a family member unless you do it the way you would with someone you found through an agency.

Yeah, you might actually have to treat your cousin like a human being instead of a paid incubator. Surrogacy should be illegal, as it is in almost every other civilized country.

Wow. What a mean thing to say on an infertility support board. Some people aren't able to carry a child (i.e. gay couples) so they should not be able to have children?

Ignore that poster. Some losers just love to troll here.

[Anonymous]

I know this thread is a little old. But I want to chime in with some thoughts (and questions)...
After 4 years of IVF, 10 cycles and 4 miscarriages (the last one just this week), I am at the end of my rope. We have already started using DE (two cycles ago, both BFP but stopped growing at around 9 weeks, heartbreaking). Genetic results normal for the first DE (twin) loss, still waiting for results on this last one. Regardless it would seem my uterus just can not sustain a pregnancy. We still have two frozen.
Hubby and I are considering going with a GC - so it would be with DE, and a GC. I am curious to hear if anyone else is/was in the same boat and what has your experience been? (I can’t help but wonder if I will love the child less because there is no genetic tie and I did not birth the baby?)
Also curious about the cost - taking the IVF cost (for embryo creation) out of the equation, how much would the rest of the cost be?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not something I would do with a family member unless you do it the way you would with someone you found through an agency.

Yeah, you might actually have to treat your cousin like a human being instead of a paid incubator. Surrogacy should be illegal, as it is in almost every other civilized country.

Wow. What a mean thing to say on an infertility support board. Some people aren't able to carry a child (i.e. gay couples) so they should not be able to have children?

No, it's not mean. It's a human rights issue. Infertility doesn't give you the right to treat another human like livestock.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not something I would do with a family member unless you do it the way you would with someone you found through an agency.

Yeah, you might actually have to treat your cousin like a human being instead of a paid incubator. Surrogacy should be illegal, as it is in almost every other civilized country.

Wow. What a mean thing to say on an infertility support board. Some people aren't able to carry a child (i.e. gay couples) so they should not be able to have children?

No, it's not mean. It's a human rights issue. Infertility doesn't give you the right to treat another human like livestock.

NP here. It IS mean.

Why are you even here? Do you expect to change the mind of someone who has come to the heart wrenching conclusion that this is the only way to have a child? You aren't changing the the OP's mind I'm sure with your self righteous, uncompassionate, and MEAN comments. Go preach your hate elsewhere please

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not something I would do with a family member unless you do it the way you would with someone you found through an agency.

Yeah, you might actually have to treat your cousin like a human being instead of a paid incubator. Surrogacy should be illegal, as it is in almost every other civilized country.

Wow. What a mean thing to say on an infertility support board. Some people aren't able to carry a child (i.e. gay couples) so they should not be able to have children?

No, it's not mean. It's a human rights issue. Infertility doesn't give you the right to treat another human like livestock.

NP here. It IS mean.

Why are you even here? Do you expect to change the mind of someone who has come to the heart wrenching conclusion that this is the only way to have a child? You aren't changing the the OP's mind I'm sure with your self righteous, uncompassionate, and MEAN comments. Go preach your hate elsewhere please[/quote

Check your privilege. It IS a human rights issue. If you can't have a child, this doesn't mean you're entitled to one, even if you can afford to purchase the use of another woman's uterus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not something I would do with a family member unless you do it the way you would with someone you found through an agency.

Yeah, you might actually have to treat your cousin like a human being instead of a paid incubator. Surrogacy should be illegal, as it is in almost every other civilized country.

New poster.

I have been a GC twice. I was not at all treated like a paid incubator. It was a beautiful experience and I got the privilege of helping another couple become a family. The compensation was more for my family - I wanted to do it because I enjoy pregnancy and wanted to help someone else, but my husband and kids didn’t particularly enjoy it. They only got the negative benefits of pregnancy and delivery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not something I would do with a family member unless you do it the way you would with someone you found through an agency.

Yeah, you might actually have to treat your cousin like a human being instead of a paid incubator. Surrogacy should be illegal, as it is in almost every other civilized country.

New poster.

I have been a GC twice. I was not at all treated like a paid incubator. It was a beautiful experience and I got the privilege of helping another couple become a family. The compensation was more for my family - I wanted to do it because I enjoy pregnancy and wanted to help someone else, but my husband and kids didn’t particularly enjoy it. They only got the negative benefits of pregnancy and delivery.

Thanks for sharing and for being a GC - that is one of the most selfless gift one can give to another.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know this thread is a little old. But I want to chime in with some thoughts (and questions)...
After 4 years of IVF, 10 cycles and 4 miscarriages (the last one just this week), I am at the end of my rope. We have already started using DE (two cycles ago, both BFP but stopped growing at around 9 weeks, heartbreaking). Genetic results normal for the first DE (twin) loss, still waiting for results on this last one. Regardless it would seem my uterus just can not sustain a pregnancy. We still have two frozen.
Hubby and I are considering going with a GC - so it would be with DE, and a GC. I am curious to hear if anyone else is/was in the same boat and what has your experience been? (I can’t help but wonder if I will love the child less because there is no genetic tie and I did not birth the baby?)
Also curious about the cost - taking the IVF cost (for embryo creation) out of the equation, how much would the rest of the cost be?

I am sorry for your losses. Have you looked into immune issues since you are able to get pregnant? The cost of a gestational carrier will vary but is usually about $75,000-100,000 in this area, exclusive of your IVF costs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not something I would do with a family member unless you do it the way you would with someone you found through an agency.

Yeah, you might actually have to treat your cousin like a human being instead of a paid incubator. Surrogacy should be illegal, as it is in almost every other civilized country.

Wow. What a mean thing to say on an infertility support board. Some people aren't able to carry a child (i.e. gay couples) so they should not be able to have children?

No, it's not mean. It's a human rights issue. Infertility doesn't give you the right to treat another human like livestock.

Who is being treated like livestock? Take your fake news agenda elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not something I would do with a family member unless you do it the way you would with someone you found through an agency.

Yeah, you might actually have to treat your cousin like a human being instead of a paid incubator. Surrogacy should be illegal, as it is in almost every other civilized country.

Wow. What a mean thing to say on an infertility support board. Some people aren't able to carry a child (i.e. gay couples) so they should not be able to have children?

No, it's not mean. It's a human rights issue. Infertility doesn't give you the right to treat another human like livestock.

Who is being treated like livestock? Take your fake news agenda elsewhere.

I don’t know where I stand on this issue. I come from a country where GC is illegal. If you there no about it, it is a bit like selling your organs. You don’t donate your uterus, you sell it. The idea behind this is that it can put poorer women in the position of selling their body parts (uterus or kidney) for money. Again, I am not necessarily against it because I know in this country women are respected and treated well and maternal medicine is decent (not great)... still... I am not there yet, but it’s a very ethically complicated issue.