Lost weight, not attracted to husband anymore

[Anonymous]

So now that you are no longer fat and some desperate men want to fu@k you, you want to dump your DH and be a sl@t?

[Anonymous]

Your soul mate could still be out there. You do not know until you get in the dating game again. You should heed the advice of another pp. Get a boob job and then cut him loose. Life it too short to be with someone who you are not attracted to.

[Anonymous]

hell, Lumburg f'd her.

[Anonymous]

Just have an affair.

[Anonymous]

Congratulations on the weight loss, I can relate to liking the attention from men especially when I worked in a field where I was surrounded by men. But I had to be honest and realize that many of them were not interested in me as a person but someone they could possible bed. Honestly many of these men if you were still fat would not give you the time of day. It is good that you have gained self-confidence and feel sexy, but it was there all along. You have gotten down to a size where you feel good about yourself.

If you play with fire, you will get BURNT!!! You made a vow before God and the people you invited to your wedding. The day you said I do you became unavailable to other men. I am for marriage, it is important for you to talk to your husband. The grass may look greener on the other side but believe you me, it has brown patches as well. I guarantee you, your husband has found himself attracted to other women, and they may have paid him some attention that you were not giving. You are a married woman, adultery has destroyed many marriages, and many men are less forgiving than women when it comes to adultery. The attention you are liking is it worth you risking or losing your marriage over?

You really need to sit down and talk to your husband. No one deserves to be cheated on and to be honest if you have already looked upon or imagined yourself with another man, it is just a matter of time before you act upon it. I can tell you that the attention is not worth destroying your marriage.

As a married woman, I have purposed that I am not going outside of my marriage, and when I find myself feeling vulnerable that I stay home as well as I tell my husband that I feel this way because I want my marriage. There are men that look attractive to me, but I remind myself that I am married and I am that a moment of temptation is not worth me destroying my family. When in this place, I remind myself what I liked about my husband that caused me to marry him and I think on those things. I also say that I have eyes only for my husband and he has eyes only for me. In my house divorce is not an option nor is adultery. I pray that you do the right thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations on the weight loss, I can relate to liking the attention from men especially when I worked in a field where I was surrounded by men. But I had to be honest and realize that many of them were not interested in me as a person but someone they could possible bed. Honestly many of these men if you were still fat would not give you the time of day. It is good that you have gained self-confidence and feel sexy, but it was there all along. You have gotten down to a size where you feel good about yourself.

If you play with fire, you will get BURNT!!! You made a vow before God and the people you invited to your wedding. The day you said I do you became unavailable to other men. I am for marriage, it is important for you to talk to your husband. The grass may look greener on the other side but believe you me, it has brown patches as well. I guarantee you, your husband has found himself attracted to other women, and they may have paid him some attention that you were not giving. You are a married woman, adultery has destroyed many marriages, and many men are less forgiving than women when it comes to adultery. The attention you are liking is it worth you risking or losing your marriage over?

You really need to sit down and talk to your husband. No one deserves to be cheated on and to be honest if you have already looked upon or imagined yourself with another man, it is just a matter of time before you act upon it. I can tell you that the attention is not worth destroying your marriage.

As a married woman, I have purposed that I am not going outside of my marriage, and when I find myself feeling vulnerable that I stay home as well as I tell my husband that I feel this way because I want my marriage. There are men that look attractive to me, but I remind myself that I am married and I am that a moment of temptation is not worth me destroying my family. When in this place, I remind myself what I liked about my husband that caused me to marry him and I think on those things. I also say that I have eyes only for my husband and he has eyes only for me. In my house divorce is not an option nor is adultery. I pray that you do the right thing.

To be fair, that's virtually all men -- at least when it comes to romance.

OP sounds like one of those guys who went through a "low" period, for whatever reason -- overweight, unemployed, drugs, etc. -- and got into a relationship with a kind woman who sort of rescued and nurtured him. Then, once he recovered from his low period, he repays her by dumping her for another, usually more conventionally attractive, woman since he now regarded himself as being out of the kind woman's league.

Do what you will, but it seems calculating and ungrateful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:hell, Lumburg f'd her.

Hahahahaha, still love that movie!

[Anonymous]

He married you when you were fat, right?
So he was good enough for you then, right?

I can't wait until the day that you decide you're too good for him & you sleep with one of the guys fawning all over you for attention & they totally ghost you after that.

You'll get attention until they sleep with you, then you'll see that they want nothing to do with you & realize you just made the biggest mistake of your life & I hope your husband has moved on to someone that's not so vapid & shallow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He married you when you were fat, right?
So he was good enough for you then, right?

I can't wait until the day that you decide you're too good for him & you sleep with one of the guys fawning all over you for attention & they totally ghost you after that.

You'll get attention until they sleep with you, then you'll see that they want nothing to do with you & realize you just made the biggest mistake of your life & I hope your husband has moved on to someone that's not so vapid & shallow.

LOL, Don't you realize that your husband has probably had TONS of opportunities since he lost his weight & you were still fat to do the same to you?

Don't you realize that he could have done the same exact thing to you BECAUSE he looked so great & you were still fat?

Don't you realize that everyone who knows your husband will ultimately realize that YOU are the reason for the divorce & everyone will turn on you, judge you & alienate you for being the heartless, superficial, insufferable b!tch that you are?

Have fun with your new life & all of your future new regrets, because there will be TONS of them, lol.

[Anonymous]

You sound shallow and immature. You might look hot now but it will fade. Will those same men who are giving you attention now want you then? Your husband loves you for who you are. You would be stupid to throw that away. Marriage has its ups and downs. You need to work through this with maturity.

This reminds me of elementary school. I had a friend ditch me when th be popular girls let her in the group. They dumped her shortly after and she wanted to come back to me. Don't be that girl.

[Anonymous]

OP, it probably has little to do with weight loss. One great understated truth is that women lose interest in their husbands after 5–10 years far more than men lose interest in their wives... if only because men are visual so they can more easily get excited. Women get tired of the constant bullshit and can't get psyched up by the mere physical presence of DH. If you have kids, get into therapy and see what you can do to save the marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have him pay for a boob job, then cut him loose and go live it up.

Wholly unsurprising advice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:if only because men are visual so they can more easily get excited. Women get tired of the constant bullshit.

I laffed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it probably has little to do with weight loss. One great understated truth is that women lose interest in their husbands after 5–10 years far more than men lose interest in their wives... if only because men are visual so they can more easily get excited. Women get tired of the constant bullshit and can't get psyched up by the mere physical presence of DH. If you have kids, get into therapy and see what you can do to save the marriage.

I agree with the first part that women lose sexual interest in their husbands far more often than men lose sexual interest in their wives, but it's a simpler explanation: 10 years into a relationship, men still want to have sex every day, just because, and their wives are their only available and approved sexual outlet so they take it. Women's sex drive can get switched to "off" and they can become ok with not having sex with anyone. Of course, if the couple broke up, they both would be having monkey sex with their new partners.

[Anonymous]

I hope this is a troll.

If not, you need a wake up call. All the new attention you mentioned is very likely in your head. I seriously doubt things will be better for you if you leave your husband and try to land a better partner at your age. The odds simply aren't in your favor.

Lastly, it's really selfish and immature to even consider leaving your husband so you can get some strange. Think about what that says about you as a person. Not cool.