How would you want this invite situation to be handled?

[Anonymous]

OP if they decline no need to suggest something else, though it is sweet of you. Leave it up to them to offer to do something else to celebrate. Otherwise, who knows what they have going on weekends and you don't them to feel guilty for declining and like they must make it up to you. Not your intention at all I know. You sound incredibly thoughtful actually. I just wouldn't assume you are doing them a favor by offering to celebrate another time.

I don't want them to feel like they have to do it to make something up to us, but the kids will get together eventually on a weekend anyway. I definitely don't feel like I'm doing them a favor because DS will want to do something to celebrate with this friend, one way or another. I wouldn't say they were best friends, but they're pretty good friends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Sounds like the child is mainstreamed and has a lot of friends and does okay in school?

OP here. Yes, I don't know that I'd say that either he or my own DS has "lots of friends" but they both have some and are part of the same friend group. I guess I will just go with the general invite, and if they decline, suggest that the boys do another activity together to celebrate another time.

OP if they decline no need to suggest something else, though it is sweet of you. Leave it up to them to offer to do something else to celebrate. Otherwise, who knows what they have going on weekends and you don't them to feel guilty for declining and like they must make it up to you. Not your intention at all I know. You sound incredibly thoughtful actually. I just wouldn't assume you are doing them a favor by offering to celebrate another time.

Mom of another HFA child, who doesn't have many friends. If my child was invited to a birthday party that didn't work because of his sensory needs, I'd cry from joy if the friend showed understanding and still wanted to get together individually with my child. Guilt would not even be a little factor. What you're suggesting to do, OP, is wonderful.