Do You Allow Your Dog on the Bed?

[Anonymous]

We have a 100lb dog who spends most of her day laying on various beds around our house (or the sofa if she thinks she can get away with it) She spends most the bulk of time on the master and we buy cheap bedspreads at TJ MAXX knowing that they will be washed many times and will not last long.

[Anonymous]

But the dog hair all over the house, in every corner of every room, on the stairs, all over the kids does not bother you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But the dog hair all over the house, in every corner of every room, on the stairs, all over the kids does not bother you?

I have a feeling you're the pissy poster that responded to a thread I created.

OP: Out of all the messages from people saying that they let their dog on the bed, how many of them mention stuffy noses? I think one. If the dog is bothering you while you sleep, your husband should respect that. It obviously isn't that you don't like the dog (or why would you have it to begin with?) It's just a matter of you not wanting to sleep with the dog.

I say have a long, calm chat with DH. The dog needs to sleep in his own bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But the dog hair all over the house, in every corner of every room, on the stairs, all over the kids does not bother you?

I have a feeling you're the pissy poster that responded to a thread I created.

OP: Out of all the messages from people saying that they let their dog on the bed, how many of them mention stuffy noses? I think one. If the dog is bothering you while you sleep, your husband should respect that. It obviously isn't that you don't like the dog (or why would you have it to begin with?) It's just a matter of you not wanting to sleep with the dog.

I say have a long, calm chat with DH. The dog needs to sleep in his own bed.

No, I am not the pissy poster who responded to any other dog threads. It was a legitimate question.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the other poster about the hair being everywhere. I have two large dogs, one long-haired and one short-haired. They are both welcome in the beds. Like the PP, I lay out a twin sized blanket at the foot of my bed and it helps some. There are "Buddy bunnies" all over my house if we don't vacuum every other day. Buddy, of course, is the long-haired dog.

[Anonymous]

IMO, dogs should NEVER be allowed on your bed, no matter the dog's size or demeanor. Allowing the dog on the bed is putting the dog on equal standing with you, your partner, and kids. It's really not good for the dog and can lead to behavioral problems. The dog will understand and happily accept it's place as an omega if you designate a special sleeping area on the floor.

[Anonymous]

No. The dog is not allowed on any furniture. My DH was resistent to getting a dog, and he finally said it was because of all the dog hair on furniture (at a friends house) so our compromise was to get a dog and not allow her on the furniture. I have to say, it is very very helpful. Fur on the rug is much less annoying (doesn't get on our clothes, less irritating to the nose) than on furniture and easier to clean up (broom / stick vacuum). Also, there is something to the "dog knowing their place" thing. Several books I have read said it helps them to understand they are not the alpa dog.

Now, we do have dog beds all through the house, so that she always has a comfortable place to lay down.

[Anonymous]

My dog absolutely sleeps on my bed. He sleeps between me and DH with his head on the pillows. He's a terrier that doesn't shed so he isn't huge and there is no issue with hair. He usually jumps down part way through the night to get in his own bed but not because we make him.

[Anonymous]

i'm obsessed with my dog, but do not let him sleep on the bed. first off, he's 130lbs and really hot and wiggly. there is just no room for him, but still, not only is there hair but dirty feet and drool. he's very happy sleeping on the floor next to us and so am i. i even tried once or twice when my husband went away on travel and i got the spooks being home alone, but he kept head butting me and its just not good practice. dogs don't need to sleep with you to feel loved. i would get your dog a really nice pillow and keep it next to the bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. The dog is not allowed on any furniture. My DH was resistent to getting a dog, and he finally said it was because of all the dog hair on furniture (at a friends house) so our compromise was to get a dog and not allow her on the furniture. I have to say, it is very very helpful. Fur on the rug is much less annoying (doesn't get on our clothes, less irritating to the nose) than on furniture and easier to clean up (broom / stick vacuum). Also, there is something to the "dog knowing their place" thing. Several books I have read said it helps them to understand they are not the alpa dog.

Now, we do have dog beds all through the house, so that she always has a comfortable place to lay down.

Absolutely agree.

[Anonymous]

No dog in the bed or on furniture. Also, no dog in the dining room (which we use about four times a year, so not a great hardship). My DH is actually the dog rule maker/enforcer, but I am the one with the dog allergy. When we had the dog before our current one, I used to coax him up on the bed to take naps with me on weekends if DH wasn't home, but we got caught once and he would never jump up again. (DH is the alpha.) The type of dog we always get runs about 80 lbs.

In terms of the poster who asked about the hair, this is why I have a housecleaner come twice a week. Nobody is covered in hair, I don't sneeze as much, less mud and dirt in the house, and everybody is happy.

[Anonymous]

also for the hair...a programmable roomba! have it run once a day. we never have the fur bunnies anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But the dog hair all over the house, in every corner of every room, on the stairs, all over the kids does not bother you?

In case this is a real question. Dog hair on the floor and in the corners is annoying on one level. Dog hair on furniture is another (gets on your clothes, follows you into the car, you are forever covered in dog hair). Dog hair on the floor is "easily" cleaned up with a vacuum, stick vaccum, broom. Dog hair on furniture finds its way into the fabric and is almost impossible to get out. Even if you can throw stuff in the washer, I swear half the time you pull it out of the washer and just have clean dog hair.

[Anonymous]

Our 85 pound very fluffy mutt usually starts the night on our bed, wanders back downstairs to sleep, and then comes up to cuddle in the mornings on the weekends (on weekdays, we wake up too early for him- he would sleep in until 9 or so if he had his way!). He also sleeps on the couch during the day while we are gone. If I had it to do all over again, I would go with the strict no furniture rule because of all the dog hair. But, he is 7 years old, and I don't feel like it would be fair to change the rules on him at this point in the game. As far as the hair, I brush him and vacuum the house every other night. Also, he gets a bath every two weeks. So at least the hair is relatively clean!

[Anonymous]

Nope. We have a dog bed in our bedroom and one in DD's bedroom-- our 55-lb mutt alternates between the two. There is one piece of people furniture he's allowed on-- the end section of our living room couch, which has a washable throw on it.

When I was single, I let my cats sleep on my bed, but DH is allergic so they are not allowed there at all (and we close the door while we're out).

I can't imagine having a dog in the bed. My 7-lb cats were one thing, on the other side of a queen bed. An actual dog would be too much.

Besides-- that's our, you know, conjugal bed, dude. All we need is pet farts to kill the moment.