Sister not speaking to me - how wrong was I?

[Anonymous]

OP here, for clarification, I did not explode or yell at her. I know she has tremendous anxiety. In my own head I sort of lost it and that's when I drew the line in the sand for myself. Not to be all defensive, but I didn't yell at her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm curious OP -did you tell your sister that her behavior also looks like bullying to others? Does she acknowledge that her bad-mouthing the other child and mom is out of bounds? Plus, she encouraged her own DD to do it.

Wait.... what???

What in the what are you talking about lady??

[Anonymous]

OP, you are not without blame. How many conversations did you have with your anxiety ridden sister?! You enjoy the drama, you get something out of this, or you wouldn't listen to it. Find something calming to spend some of your spare time on - wean off the drama - and tell your sister you can't listen to her ruminate over things.

[Anonymous]

You are not "wrong." However, I agree with others that you need to stop serving as a listening post for your sister's constant anxiety and freak-outs. I know that with anxious obsessives there is a tendency for sane people (like us) to feel like with every single conversation, you have convinced them to look at the situation sanely and to calm down and be rational...and then a half hour later, the next phone call. You have not and never will convince your sister to calm down and be rational. It's not going to happen. Have ONE SINGLE CONVERSATION with her. Then, refer her back to that conversation and get off the phone. Be in traffic, be busy, be cut off. But don't indulge this.