Dealing with ex's retired mother

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is responsible for maintaining a relationship with the kids grandparents. Depending on the time share, dad may get so little time that grandma's only option is to go through mom or her time. If dad gets every other weekend, that is 4 out of 28-30 days. Grandma should contact mom and request it but no reason grandma can't be involved assuming no abuse or neglect.

OP is only responsible for maintaining a relationship with HER parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, maybe ask her to watch your DD over school breaks. Start using this enthusiasm to your advantage. Pull out the school year calendar and mark all those random teacher workdays on a calendar and ask Gma to cover those days. Plan an overnight here or there with Gma. Also, can you send her to Grandma Camp next year instead of having to pay for camp? Maybe for a week or two?

Good idea.

Important - please check with the school and camp that your MIL does NOT have authorization to pick up your child for now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Np. Dad only has the kid every other weekend. It drives me nuts that my ex has his mom take the kids on the few days a year genus supposed to actually parent.

Op, I would schedule planned dates. Gma picks up from school M, W, F or whatever.

Give him more time. If he only gets them 4 days a month, what do you expect. You can be decent and have the grandparents see the kids on your time given the difference.

That's what he chose to do. He moved to Richmond and doesn't want to make the drive (or meet halfway) more than he has to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also, maybe ask her to watch your DD over school breaks. Start using this enthusiasm to your advantage. Pull out the school year calendar and mark all those random teacher workdays on a calendar and ask Gma to cover those days. Plan an overnight here or there with Gma. Also, can you send her to Grandma Camp next year instead of having to pay for camp? Maybe for a week or two?

Good idea.

Important - please check with the school and camp that your MIL does NOT have authorization to pick up your child for now.

She doesn't. Only her father (he picks up the Friday during his weekends) and I have authorization to pick her up.