Resentment over boomer grandmother

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't have had three kids if you didn't want to be overwhelmed...

Oh look, one of the resident DCUM assholes showed up!

[Anonymous]

Did your mother force you to have three children? They are your kids so you take care of them. She does not owe you a single second of free child care. If you do not want to help her then say no.

[Anonymous]

Stop whining and just tell her you're too busy. You can't be at fault when you tell the truth. If she has a problem with it, that's her problem. Just because she's your mother doesn't mean you can't say no.

[Anonymous]

Just be glad you had a grandma to pick up your mom's slack.

[Anonymous]

You're in the sandwich generation, having to take care of people on both ends. Just tell her no, you have too much on your plate (no pun intended).

[Anonymous]

I get it op. Boomer generation is really annoying. Very selfish and self absorbed. Someone recently wrote a book about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't have had three kids if you didn't want to be overwhelmed...

She is overwhelmed by her mother, not her children.

That is ridiculous. She can control contact with the mother. OP is a drama queen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're in the sandwich generation, having to take care of people on both ends. Just tell her no, you have too much on your plate (no pun intended).

OP doesn't have to take care of her mother. Her mother is able to care for herself. "Sandwich generation" does not apply here, unless OP decides she wants to take care of an adult who can take care of herself.

[Anonymous]

I'm a 2-time PP. Is it possible your mother is recognizing some changes in herself such that she a) cannot take care of kids, and b) does need help with errands, etc? If that is the case, then you (and I, re: previous comments) are mistaken, and you should try to help her transition as smoothly as possible to being more dependent on others (senior taxi, public transport discount, community center...).

Just a thought, as I re-read my comments and the OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get it op. Boomer generation is really annoying. Very selfish and self absorbed. Someone recently wrote a book about it.

The mother barely has a toe in the Baby Boom. She's born what in 1947 or 46? If anything, she was born during the deprivation of the post war years. I'm amazed how little Millenials know about history. Whoops, another generalization.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get it op. Boomer generation is really annoying. Very selfish and self absorbed. Someone recently wrote a book about it.

The mother barely has a toe in the Baby Boom. She's born what in 1947 or 46? If anything, she was born during the deprivation of the post war years. I'm amazed how little Millenials know about history. Whoops, another generalization.

Anything pre genx is aholes

[Anonymous]

Op take stand. Rock that boomers world by telling her she is just not that special. Stop doing all the work for the blood sucking boomer!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boomers are the worst generation. When they die America it's great again

Think so?

[Anonymous]

ooooh she gets mad! poor baby! The word you're looking for, Op, is NO.
If it's bad as you say, think of it this way - - you want to role model well
for your children. Now be an adult and handle it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You work 20 hours a week and you can't figure out how to manage?
Seems to me you and your mom are cut from the same cloth.
I think the problem is you being a lazy Xer or Mllenial just as much as she's a lazy Boomer.

Stop doing things she can do herself, and you grow up and learn how to function like the adult and parent you are.

+1,000,000