Feeling overwhelmed 16 m/o and 3.5 year old

[Anonymous]

You are in the absolutely worst right now. Hire someone to cut the grass once a week. Ask for contractor recs on Nextdoor.

[AnnaTjacks]

I'm so sorry to hear this. I have a daughter who also suffers from food allergies and it can be frustrating. I hope you find a way to get some needed rest. Is there a way that you can your husband can switch off when you are both home and you take the time to rest. Or are there family members that can watch your child from time to time. I understand about being totally exhausted. If you can some time to yourself it will renew your energy. I also wonder can the job you do be done at home. I pray that you get some needed rest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm really overwhelmed and exhausted. My older DS was always an "easy" baby but DD has food allergies and gastro issues so she hasn't slept through the night yet. DH and I also have professional commitments and while I've scaled back my work I can't afford to leave my job entirely. I felt like I was handling this all pretty well but this last month I've reached a level of exhaustion I've never known. While we keep our house clean and relatively organized on the inside, I feel like the cracks are literally starting to form. our yard looks terrible, we need to do some home repairs and can't find a contractor, I'm 40 pounds overweight. I don't know where to begin, but I'd like to get a little more control of things, is like to sleep.

Just want to say I'm right there with you. On the days I have extra time and/or energy I try to power through my to do list. It helps me to have things written down. I am never caught up, there is always more to do, everything is expensive as heck. Just get through each day and go to bed as soon as you can each night and eventually you will be on the other side.

[Anonymous]

Mine were 20 mos apart and my youngest didn't sleep thru the night until 14 mos bc of GI issues and I literally almost lost my mind - you prob need a full physical to check your thyroid too. I literally slept off the deprivation for 6 months (like my head would hit pillow and I'd sleep in the same position for 8 hours). She's now 3.5 and my fog lifted 6 mos ago - I'm back in shape - have lost 10 lbs and have started reclaiming my life! Hugs - you will survive but OT sucks and is so hard

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm really overwhelmed and exhausted. My older DS was always an "easy" baby but DD has food allergies and gastro issues so she hasn't slept through the night yet. DH and I also have professional commitments and while I've scaled back my work I can't afford to leave my job entirely. I felt like I was handling this all pretty well but this last month I've reached a level of exhaustion I've never known. While we keep our house clean and relatively organized on the inside, I feel like the cracks are literally starting to form. our yard looks terrible, we need to do some home repairs and can't find a contractor, I'm 40 pounds overweight. I don't know where to begin, but I'd like to get a little more control of things, is like to sleep.

Sorry, I have no compassion. What did you expect? Maybe you should have waited a little longer before having the second child to give yourselves time to adjust to the life changes. Every issue you mentioned is completely foreseeable and should have been anticipated when you decided to go for #2.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm really overwhelmed and exhausted. My older DS was always an "easy" baby but DD has food allergies and gastro issues so she hasn't slept through the night yet. DH and I also have professional commitments and while I've scaled back my work I can't afford to leave my job entirely. I felt like I was handling this all pretty well but this last month I've reached a level of exhaustion I've never known. While we keep our house clean and relatively organized on the inside, I feel like the cracks are literally starting to form. our yard looks terrible, we need to do some home repairs and can't find a contractor, I'm 40 pounds overweight. I don't know where to begin, but I'd like to get a little more control of things, is like to sleep.

Sorry, I have no compassion. What did you expect? Maybe you should have waited a little longer before having the second child to give yourselves time to adjust to the life changes. Every issue you mentioned is completely foreseeable and should have been anticipated when you decided to go for #2.

Ohhh go f**k yourself. -NP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm really overwhelmed and exhausted. My older DS was always an "easy" baby but DD has food allergies and gastro issues so she hasn't slept through the night yet. DH and I also have professional commitments and while I've scaled back my work I can't afford to leave my job entirely. I felt like I was handling this all pretty well but this last month I've reached a level of exhaustion I've never known. While we keep our house clean and relatively organized on the inside, I feel like the cracks are literally starting to form. our yard looks terrible, we need to do some home repairs and can't find a contractor, I'm 40 pounds overweight. I don't know where to begin, but I'd like to get a little more control of things, is like to sleep.

Sorry, I have no compassion. What did you expect? Maybe you should have waited a little longer before having the second child to give yourselves time to adjust to the life changes. Every issue you mentioned is completely foreseeable and should have been anticipated when you decided to go for #2.

Ohhh go f**k yourself. -NP

You go f**k yourself. -PP

[Anonymous]

What's the prognosis for the GI issues in the baby? Why is it taking forever to resolve? I'd get that resolved, and be pushy about it - maybe ask for a stronger dosage, so she (and the rest of the family) can STTN.
And why would food allergies prevent the baby from sleeping through the night?

Hire a lawn service or a neighborhood teenager to do the lawn. Have them cut on the lowest setting on the mower so you don't have to do it every week.

Get exercise during lunch hour- a power walk, park extra far away, do calf raises while standing at the xerox machine or water cooler, etc. Any sort of movement. Plus, there are a TON of exercises you can do at your desk. HEc, get a standing desk! (DH feels a million times better now that he has one).

Start advocating for yourself instead of woe is me I'm too tired and falling apart. We've all been there, but the difference is that (most) of us get out of that slump.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm really overwhelmed and exhausted. My older DS was always an "easy" baby but DD has food allergies and gastro issues so she hasn't slept through the night yet. DH and I also have professional commitments and while I've scaled back my work I can't afford to leave my job entirely. I felt like I was handling this all pretty well but this last month I've reached a level of exhaustion I've never known. While we keep our house clean and relatively organized on the inside, I feel like the cracks are literally starting to form. our yard looks terrible, we need to do some home repairs and can't find a contractor, I'm 40 pounds overweight. I don't know where to begin, but I'd like to get a little more control of things, is like to sleep.

Sorry, I have no compassion. What did you expect? Maybe you should have waited a little longer before having the second child to give yourselves time to adjust to the life changes. Every issue you mentioned is completely foreseeable and should have been anticipated when you decided to go for #2.

Ohhh go f**k yourself. -NP

You go f**k yourself. -PP

You are a terrible person, PP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm really overwhelmed and exhausted. My older DS was always an "easy" baby but DD has food allergies and gastro issues so she hasn't slept through the night yet. DH and I also have professional commitments and while I've scaled back my work I can't afford to leave my job entirely. I felt like I was handling this all pretty well but this last month I've reached a level of exhaustion I've never known. While we keep our house clean and relatively organized on the inside, I feel like the cracks are literally starting to form. our yard looks terrible, we need to do some home repairs and can't find a contractor, I'm 40 pounds overweight. I don't know where to begin, but I'd like to get a little more control of things, is like to sleep.

Sorry, I have no compassion. What did you expect? Maybe you should have waited a little longer before having the second child to give yourselves time to adjust to the life changes. Every issue you mentioned is completely foreseeable and should have been anticipated when you decided to go for #2.

Ohhh go f**k yourself. -NP

You go f**k yourself. -PP

You are a terrible person, PP.

Lol if that's what makes you feel better. Not everyone has to jump on someone's pity train. The OP is complaining about 1st world problems, and expects pity for a situation of her own making. I am a generally sympathetic person, but I just can't get onboard with her crying about this. These are easily fixable issues.